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Old 08-10-2014, 09:17 PM
 
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I don't get it, how could you be a friend and enemy to someone? Has social media warped people so much that their own sense of friend and foe is upside down? Is this some sort of joke or some wierd Internet thing?
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Old 08-10-2014, 09:32 PM
 
Location: Lebanon, OH
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I think it comes from situations where you are around someone that you have to be nice to but deep down you know they are a POS as a person, usually inlaws, co workers, neighbors or people from church.
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Old 08-10-2014, 11:16 PM
 
Location: Portlandia "burbs"
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I think the poster above me is right. It's something called "keeping your enemies" close, and it occurs often in the work place. I've seen it done for personal gain. But I never heard that term 'frenemy' until now - does sound like an internet thing.
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Old 08-11-2014, 04:18 AM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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Frenemy - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

The term goes back a while.
I never considered it an internet thing.
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Old 08-11-2014, 04:33 AM
 
Location: Gatineau, QC, Canada
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It makes me think of the Newman-Jerry relationship in Seinfeld.
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Old 08-11-2014, 12:13 PM
 
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To me this not weird at all. We have a couple of friends (out of several) who can be categorized as frenemies. On the outside they are happy for our triumphs and sorry for our failures. However, it is easy to see they are sometimes happy about our failures and jealous of our success. Its not black and white. Sometimes I do know their response is genuine. Unfortunately we cannot pick and choose the parts of them that we like so accepting them for who they are is important.
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Old 08-11-2014, 01:45 PM
 
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I think it comes from situations where you are around someone that you have to be nice to but deep down you know they are a POS as a person, usually inlaws, co workers, neighbors or people from church.
I have had a frenemy at work. I had to be nice to her, but she was just so mean and nasty it was an effort.
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Old 08-11-2014, 11:34 PM
 
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I don't get it, how could you be a friend and enemy to someone? Has social media warped people so much that their own sense of friend and foe is upside down? Is this some sort of joke or some wierd Internet thing?
Perhaps another word to describe this kind of behavior is two-faced?

Some people are truly two-faced. They'll say one thing in front of people's faces, and then another thing behind their backs.

I know some people who will be so nice and friendly, all complimenting the other person to their face, and then turns right around and will say something nasty "Oh. That lady's so annoying" and then spreads false information. But a second ago, they were best friends.

Frienemy = Conniving Backstabbers
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Old 08-13-2014, 07:47 AM
 
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There may be times when "frenemy" is applied from the old proverb "the enemy of my enemy is my friend."
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Old 08-14-2014, 08:33 PM
 
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I don't get it, how could you be a friend and enemy to someone? Has social media warped people so much that their own sense of friend and foe is upside down? Is this some sort of joke or some wierd Internet thing?
Frenemies, as they're known, are real, but they don't usually start out that way. Over time, resentments, irritations, jealousy, competition, etc. build up and either start seeping out or explode completely. That's how most "frenemy" friendships are formed.
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