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Old 08-14-2014, 08:37 PM
 
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I have an interesting question. If there are people who go out specifically to steal spouses and significant others, are there also people who go out to "steal" friends or sabotage friendships or groups of friends? I'm not trying to say it in a controlling way like friends are one's property or anything like that, I'm just wondering if people actually have that mindset and why?
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Old 08-14-2014, 09:43 PM
 
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Not since high school.
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Old 08-15-2014, 06:05 AM
 
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Not since high school.
I would've thought not since elementary school...
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Old 08-15-2014, 10:24 AM
 
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I guess if there are people who don't want to share their friends (more than likely only one friend), they may try to sabotage relationships. I certainly know of one woman who believed that her "best" friend was stolen. She has a difficult time keeping friends so maybe this is her excuse.
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Old 08-15-2014, 10:39 AM
 
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I guess if there are people who don't want to share their friends (more than likely only one friend), they may try to sabotage relationships. I certainly know of one woman who believed that her "best" friend was stolen. She has a difficult time keeping friends so maybe this is her excuse.
Very interesting. I was talking more along the lines of people (or maybe only kids?) who purposely stick themselves between two best friends in a way that lures one out, maybe the one they're "after" has something they want or think they can get, and they have no use for the other friend so they shut them out or whatnot and if the excluded friend has no other (or fewer) friends, they're standing along the sidelines like "what?".

But I agree. Everybody, no matter their age, can use more friends.
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Old 08-16-2014, 03:54 AM
 
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Very interesting. I was talking more along the lines of people (or maybe only kids?) who purposely stick themselves between two best friends in a way that lures one out, maybe the one they're "after" has something they want or think they can get, and they have no use for the other friend so they shut them out or whatnot and if the excluded friend has no other (or fewer) friends, they're standing along the sidelines like "what?".

But I agree. Everybody, no matter their age, can use more friends.
I would say that the friend who got left out is the lucky one. That child now has an opportunity to meet new children who may form more meaningful relationships.

I still think that anyone who thinks their friend was stolen probably needs help building friendship skills.
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Old 08-16-2014, 05:39 AM
 
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I have an interesting question. If there are people who go out specifically to steal spouses and significant others, are there also people who go out to "steal" friends or sabotage friendships or groups of friends? I'm not trying to say it in a controlling way like friends are one's property or anything like that, I'm just wondering if people actually have that mindset and why?
Sure, it's all about the conquest. I think it comes from a place of deep insecurity.
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Old 08-17-2014, 07:15 PM
 
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I have an interesting question. If there are people who go out specifically to steal spouses and significant others, are there also people who go out to "steal" friends or sabotage friendships or groups of friends? I'm not trying to say it in a controlling way like friends are one's property or anything like that, I'm just wondering if people actually have that mindset and why?
I know people who do that. I never really though about their rationale. Just keep the friends you want to keep, away from the friend stealers (preemptive strike/steal).
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Old 08-17-2014, 09:28 PM
 
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It's common. I guess such is people, we aren't always sweet
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Old 08-19-2014, 06:23 AM
 
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Pfft. People can't be stolen. They can leave voluntarily, and normally they do when someone appears too clingy or needy. Someone who worries about who their friend is friends with would qualify.
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