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Old 08-16-2014, 10:14 AM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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One of my sister's acquaintances was having a party this weekend. Her and my sister had a recent falling out, and my sister is taking a break from her. When my sister filled me in on the details, she told me said acquaintance invited me to the party too. To be honest I find her sort of annoying, so I wouldn't have attended but then I wondered why she didn't just invite me directly.

The woman has my phone number email address. Facebook profile. She even emailed us an unrelated question in the same day she emailed my sister about the party. Clearly she has my contact info. I thought this was sort of stupid. Why is my sister responsible for coordinating my invites and managing my calendar?

My sister and I are pretty close. She has co-opted some of my friends and I have done the same to hers. We spend lots of time together, but we do plenty of social activities apart. The same thing happens to her as well. Someone will have an event, I'll attend and they'll ask me where she is. Meanwhile they didn't invite her. Generally speaking, I just assume my sister will go, or I'll ask her if she is a attending something and we will go together, but I also do not assume and invite for me is an invite for my sister (unless we are talking casual stuff like let's all go to happy hour). She assumes the same, unless someone explicitly says bring more friends, I don't call her to come with me.

So there are two questions buried in here:
1. Do you have friends that treat you and your siblings as a matched set, and assume you go everywhere together?
2. Why do people invite by proxy when they have your info?
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Old 08-16-2014, 11:53 AM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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So there are two questions buried in here:
1. Do you have friends that treat you and your siblings as a matched set, and assume you go everywhere together?
2. Why do people invite by proxy when they have your info?
1. No, never. While we are close, we are four years apart and had our own friends.
2. Never had that happen either.
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Old 08-16-2014, 12:38 PM
 
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Agree with PittChick. You said yourself that this girl was annoying and that her behavior is stupid. There is a reason for this.
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Old 08-16-2014, 02:09 PM
 
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1. Nope.
2. I wouldn't know. Better to ask them, but they'll probably have some lame excuse.

Why didn't your sister tell that person to invite you on their own accord?
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Old 08-16-2014, 10:40 PM
 
Location: Lebanon, OH
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If you find her annoying and were not invited directly then you have an out, don't go and if asked why you were not there say that you didn't know about it.
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