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Old 09-02-2014, 03:53 PM
 
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My siblings and I have been living in the same house together since birth. After my father's death I became the owner of our apartment building. My sibling and his family live in one of the apartments and refuse to pay rent because "they don't have the money". When I bring it up about how I need their rent, it is like starting WWIII. We fight argue constantly. There is a lot of verbal and emotional abuse going on. I have become so depressed to the point where I can't leave my house. I am constantly going to work for 60 hours a week to pay for mortgage, utilities, repairs on the apartments, etc. I have NO money to do ANYTHING for myself or children because I'm too busy paying for all of them.... I NEED HELP!!!
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Old 09-02-2014, 08:03 PM
 
Location: Massachusetts
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Belongs in real estate forum.
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Old 09-03-2014, 04:47 AM
 
Location: a primitive state
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If you're that stressed, serve them eviction papers. What do you have to lose, since they obviously don't care about you.

Then move on with your life.
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Old 09-03-2014, 05:00 AM
 
Location: Connecticut is my adopted home.
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Another approach would be to try family arbitration if the sibling would agree to abide by the ruling. Do you have other siblings involved? What is their role in this if so? Bottom line you will have to live like you are or get the deadbeats to start paying or out of he rental.
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Old 09-03-2014, 06:04 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Are you the SOLE owner?

Can you sell the building?

It would release you from this horrible position and show them what it's like to deal with a real landlord.
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Old 09-03-2014, 08:26 AM
 
Location: Dallas TX
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They are family, but tenants and wouldn't do this to anyone else. Do they have a lease? Hold them to the lease, just as you would any other tenant. Let them know it is business, and you need the rent for the apartment they are living in. Stop letting them take advantage of you.
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Old 09-03-2014, 09:04 AM
 
Location: S.E. Louisiana
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If you're that stressed, serve them eviction papers. What do you have to lose, since they obviously don't care about you.

Then move on with your life.
Just to be clear, you write "siblings" in your first sentence, but then focus on "a sibling" and family causing problems.

If you have more than one sibling, what is/are the "non-trouble making" sibling(s) doing to help you with the situation? Sounds like nothing.

Regardless of the number of siblings, I agree with ellie. Legally evict them and then disown them, estrange them, and cut them off from your life..................then go out and celebrate!
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Old 09-03-2014, 09:13 AM
 
Location: SoCal again
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Sell the apartments and let other people deal with them.
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Old 09-03-2014, 09:21 AM
 
Location: Cape Coma Florida
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Sell the apartments and let other people deal with them.
Yeah, that! ^^^

Seriously I would! I really don't envy you in that situation. If they think they can ride free on your dime because they are family then they are family not worth having. I'd sell the building and disown them, but that's just my take on it, having had to divorce my entire dysfunctional family.
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Old 09-03-2014, 09:34 AM
 
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Evict them or sell the building. It seems those are your only options.
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