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Old 09-04-2014, 08:01 PM
 
Location: Arlington, VA and Washington, DC
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Okay, I'm a career guy and pursuing grad level education. Relationships just don't fit into my life at this time. I have no desire for one. The friends I interact with the most are all career-oriented and don't date seriously either.

Now over the summer, at my job I've had to endure announcements of pregnancies, engagements, and of the like. It has me annoyed to the infinite degree. I cannot figure out why. I have no desire for children or marriage. I just cannot figure out why the hell these announcements bother me so much. It may be that I really have nothing to report, if I even had anything to report, I'd probably not announce it at work anyway.

Any insight CD?
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Old 09-04-2014, 08:05 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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May I ask what kinds of announcements were talking about?

Are people standing in the middle of the office and yelling, or messaging, or e-mailing etc?

Just trying to get an idea of context.
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Old 09-04-2014, 08:07 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Where do you work? I've never encountered that in the workplace. Maybe this is management's idea of building rapport or morale? Bringing co-workers closer together? Beats me.
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Old 09-04-2014, 08:08 PM
 
Location: Arlington, VA and Washington, DC
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May I ask what kinds of announcements were talking about?

Are people standing in the middle of the office and yelling, or messaging, or e-mailing etc?

Just trying to get an idea of context.
Basically a lot of these came at a "voluntary" company sponsored happy hour (I just wanted to bolt at that time and obviously couldn't) otherwise office convos.
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Old 09-04-2014, 08:10 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Their life alterations tick you off because you don't need to know other's businesses.It's like bragging, "Yay me!"

Don't worry when yours happends, you will be happy for the,"Wait a go Dissenter!"

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Old 09-04-2014, 08:11 PM
 
Location: NY
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I would try and dig for why it bothers you.

Although I have not really been subjected to much in the way of those announcements in a true work environment, it is not long before someone's engagement or pregnancy circulates the office and people are planning parties, etc.

Honestly, I think it is because if the person is happy enough to announce the milestone, people generally want to share their excitement and celebrate with them.

Nothing wrong with that to be honest.

If you are happy with your career focused choice, just move on from these things. No reason to let them bother you. It will only serve as a distraction to you.
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Old 09-04-2014, 08:12 PM
 
Location: Arlington, VA and Washington, DC
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Where do you work? I've never encountered that in the workplace. Maybe this is management's idea of building rapport or morale? Bringing co-workers closer together? Beats me.
A financial institution branch. A lot of later 20s folks. Maybe I should finally jump ship and go to a workplace to work with older people who are jaded with family life.
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Old 09-04-2014, 08:14 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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hmm.... Checkered's post really made me think. Diss, you had a challenging upbringing. Maybe you're not able to open up to other people's joy? Maybe you're closed off, because that's what you had to do to survive, and to protect your heart, way back when?

Just a thought.
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Old 09-04-2014, 08:15 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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A financial institution branch. A lot of later 20s folks. Maybe I should finally jump ship and go to a workplace to work with older people who are jaded with family life.
No!! Then you'll hear about grandkids all day.
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Old 09-04-2014, 08:18 PM
 
Location: In the desert, by the mirage.
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Where do you work? I've never encountered that in the workplace. Maybe this is management's idea of building rapport or morale? Bringing co-workers closer together? Beats me.
This is the first thing that came to mind. No amount of company loyalty would make me comfortable with having my personal business out there in the form of an announcement. Let people find out the old fashioned way - gossip.
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