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Old 09-07-2014, 07:23 PM
 
Location: Tuscaloosa
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I live off campus at the university of Alabama. I live with 2 guy friends and a girl( pretty cool girl, she's not a GF to any of us). We lived together in the apt. over the summer and it was awful. They are all very sloppy people. Any cleaning that was done, was done by me. At one point I was fed up being the maid and explained that they needed to start pulling cleaning weight and whatnot. It didn't last long. As of now I'm the maid again, cleaning all the dishes, vacuuming, taking trash out, etc. My parents insist I talk to them again, but I don't know what else is left to say after the 1st time. Where do I go from here? go on strike?
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Old 09-07-2014, 08:20 PM
 
Location: Lebanon, OH
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I had a similar problem when I went to the University of Cincinnati and was sharing a house with 5 other people. When the lease was up during the following school year my wife and I got a small apartment for just the two of us, smartest thing we ever did.
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Old 09-08-2014, 07:43 AM
 
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I live off campus at the university of Alabama. I live with 2 guy friends and a girl( pretty cool girl, she's not a GF to any of us). We lived together in the apt. over the summer and it was awful. They are all very sloppy people. Any cleaning that was done, was done by me. At one point I was fed up being the maid and explained that they needed to start pulling cleaning weight and whatnot. It didn't last long. As of now I'm the maid again, cleaning all the dishes, vacuuming, taking trash out, etc. My parents insist I talk to them again, but I don't know what else is left to say after the 1st time. Where do I go from here? go on strike?
Can you possibly move? That really may be your only option. Short of that....Stop doing their dishes and cleaning after them. Do you have to share a bathroom? I would make my room as cozy as possible, and spend almost all my time in there.......until I could move out. I feel for you!
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Old 09-08-2014, 07:47 AM
 
Location: Wartrace,TN
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Slobs aren't going to change their ways. Start looking for another place to live.
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Old 09-08-2014, 07:55 AM
 
Location: Whoville....
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I live off campus at the university of Alabama. I live with 2 guy friends and a girl( pretty cool girl, she's not a GF to any of us). We lived together in the apt. over the summer and it was awful. They are all very sloppy people. Any cleaning that was done, was done by me. At one point I was fed up being the maid and explained that they needed to start pulling cleaning weight and whatnot. It didn't last long. As of now I'm the maid again, cleaning all the dishes, vacuuming, taking trash out, etc. My parents insist I talk to them again, but I don't know what else is left to say after the 1st time. Where do I go from here? go on strike?
Could you hire a cleaning service to come in once a week and have everyone chip in? When dh and I were in marriage counseling one of his (many ) complaints was I don't keep house as well as he'd like. The counselor's solution was that we hire a cleaning lady. It is very hard to make a person who doesn't care if the house is messy care about the house being messy. You are the one bothered by this so you become the one who has to do something about it. No matter how many times you talk to them, you will not make them care. Those of us who are not bothered by messiness simply are not bothered by messiness. Either clean the place to your liking, hire a house keeper or find new roommates. You'll never change the ones you have and you need to quit trying. You come across as a nag and they aren't going to change for you. To the person who cares goes the burden of making the change. You're the only one who cares if the place is messy.
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Old 09-08-2014, 08:28 AM
 
Location: Georgia
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My son has three roommates. They have a service come in once a week -- bathrooms are clean, floors are clean, kitchen gets a good cleaning, rooms are dusted.

Everyone is happy.
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Old 09-08-2014, 08:41 AM
 
Location: Greenbelt, MD
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Move, unless you are tied to a lease. If that's the case I'd ask them to start paying you...

The above post by dblackga is a great idea.
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Old 09-08-2014, 10:41 AM
 
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why should they do it when you do it for them?
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Old 09-08-2014, 11:00 AM
 
Location: Tuscaloosa
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I'm tied to a lease.Definitely going to look into a possible cleaning service, we'll all have to pitch in money though
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Old 09-08-2014, 11:14 AM
 
Location: The Netherlands
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Same as I had,, I talked to them more than enough. No one listen. I cleaned my plate my cup and my bed that is it. be sure that they will pay if you are going to hire a cleaning service. Otherwise you will end up paying the bill also on your own.
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