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Old 09-14-2014, 05:28 PM
 
Location: Portlandia "burbs"
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Your mother may have her moments when she hates you, too.
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Old 09-14-2014, 05:31 PM
 
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No, it's really impossible to relate to something so vague. We don't know if you're over-stating the case, or why you'd "hate" her.

I don't know if you're a teenager who's angry because she cut off your allowance. Or if she's an abusive mother who kept you chained in the basement. Or if she's a needy mother who keeps demanding help from you. Or if she's just nagging you because she hopes you'll get married or have kids.
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Old 09-14-2014, 05:36 PM
 
Location: southern california
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it has been greatly to my advantage to be kind helpful supportive to my parents-- regardless of how i and my siblings were treated.
the benefits in doing this and the enormous effect it has had on my personal power is beyond anything else i have done in my life.
my shining accomplishment, huck took care of his parents since 1991.
i took care of them not bek of their behavior, that was terrible, but bek they were my parents.
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Old 09-14-2014, 06:51 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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it has been greatly to my advantage to be kind helpful supportive to my parents-- regardless of how i and my siblings were treated.
the benefits in doing this and the enormous effect it has had on my personal power is beyond anything else i have done in my life.
my shining accomplishment, huck took care of his parents since 1991.
i took care of them not bek of their behavior, that was terrible, but bek they were my parents.
I'm glad you feel that it was worth it to take the high road, but I don't understand about the "personal power". What do you mean by that? Personal power within your own family? That is, vis a vis your siblings? Or did you get bigger muscles from lifting your parents in and out of bed?
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Old 09-14-2014, 09:09 PM
 
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Yes - until her memory got so bad she forgot she was a *****. Honest!! and I kinda enjoy the 94 y/o gal now
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Old 09-14-2014, 10:36 PM
 
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No, I'm sorry, I cannot relate. Why do you hate your mother?
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Old 09-15-2014, 12:06 AM
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You've got over 6000 posts and you post this ridiculous post What gives?
Maybe his mother posted the 6000.
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Old 09-15-2014, 01:04 AM
 
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA
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Can anyone else relate?
Sort of. I hate some things (a lot of things) about my dad, but so do other people. Still, I do what I can to get along with him because he's family.
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Old 09-15-2014, 04:21 AM
 
Location: Texas
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"Because he/she is family" is a terrible reason to put up with anyone.
Plenty of murders, rapists, etc, are someone's family.
Hitler had family.

No, op, I don't relate to your hating your mother bc I don't hate my parents.
They are nice people who are nice to me and we are all nice together as a family.

There are people who are friends/family who I have nothing to do with because they have done and continue to do despicable things. But I don't hate them.

I also think it's creepy if people know someone has totally done something terrible to someone else, but they think, "Oh, well, they didn't do it to me so I will still be their friend." Seriously? Is that right?
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Old 09-15-2014, 09:06 AM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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My husband hates his mother. I didn't understand that until we stayed with her for a few days. She's got something wrong in her head and she's a very scary person to be around once she's dropped the normal act. All I'd ever seen was the normal, slightly dotty old lady act so I thought my husband was being mean about her, or had never grown out of that teenage rebellion stage, but now I know better. It's amazing my husband grew up to be such a good person considering what he had to deal with.
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