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Old 09-27-2014, 05:50 PM
 
Location: LA, CA/ In This Time and Place
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My sister and this girl are both 19. I am just shocked, and really just not comfortable with it. Turns out my sisters bestfriend is actually her girlfriend. But they are both girly though? Are girly lesbians common? I thought most lesbians were butch/manly? Anyways, Im disappointed in her and I think this a just a bad phase shes going through. How do I explain this to her?
Not all of them are like that.

 
Old 09-27-2014, 05:56 PM
 
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Bunch of real winners you have there. Ignorance is a choice, remember.
Really! Of course his sister could really throw a bigger wrench into the situation and bring home a black girlfriend.
 
Old 09-27-2014, 06:06 PM
 
Location: Lebanon, OH
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The reason I am disappointed is because I know it will cause family drama. I am disappointed in her because she didnt feel comfortable enough to tell me, at least. My family is close minded and dont support gay marriage. I am the only family member who knows, but our mom has made it clear she thinks being gay is a sin, and she told us if she ever had a gay child or a daughter that has a black boyfriend she will disown us. My dad always makes fun of gay people. I will support her, but I am just so sad she has to keep her secret from the rest of our family.
Are you for real?

How did this site become a magnet for such outrageous crap.

Your problem is your ignorant parents, not your sister.
 
Old 09-27-2014, 06:12 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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My sister and this girl are both 19. I am just shocked, and really just not comfortable with it. Turns out my sisters bestfriend is actually her girlfriend. But they are both girly though? Are girly lesbians common? I thought most lesbians were butch/manly? Anyways, Im disappointed in her and I think this a just a bad phase shes going through. How do I explain this to her?
Explain to her that you're shocked and not comfortable with it and disappointed and that she's in a bad phase and that neither woman's characteristics match your expectations of lesbians? Just 'explain' your problems just like you stated it here.

[no guarantee that doing so will solve your problems, though]
 
Old 09-27-2014, 06:26 PM
 
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No rude comments, I am trying to help her and give her some support.
 
Old 09-27-2014, 07:27 PM
 
Location: here
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My sister and this girl are both 19. I am just shocked, and really just not comfortable with it. Turns out my sisters bestfriend is actually her girlfriend. But they are both girly though? Are girly lesbians common? I thought most lesbians were butch/manly? Anyways, Im disappointed in her and I think this a just a bad phase shes going through. How do I explain this to her?
It is not your business and doesn't matter if you are comfortable with it. Please try to be happy she has found someone she likes to spend time with. You shouldn't explain your feelings to her. To be blunt, they don't matter.
 
Old 09-27-2014, 07:36 PM
 
Location: Caverns measureless to man...
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No rude comments, I am trying to help her and give her some support.
Good for you. I'm sorry if I was snarky earlier. If I were you, I'd tell her that you love her, and ask her to tell you whatever you need to know to help her come out to your parents. Ask her what support she needs from you right now. Even if she doesn't have a clear idea of what she needs, it will get the conversation started, and the ideas will come as the two of you talk.

Good luck to both of you. I hope your parents surprise you both!
 
Old 09-27-2014, 07:39 PM
 
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Considering how little you obviously know about the subject, who are you to explain anything to her? You should be asking questions, not explaining.


Funny how the OP ignored this.


I cannot believe the OP has the hubris to think that her opinion means anything. It doesn't. This is your sister's life - not yours, and not your parents.

As Albert said above, ask questions - you seem very ignorant about the subject.
 
Old 09-27-2014, 08:04 PM
 
Location: here
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My sister and this girl are both 19. I am just shocked, and really just not comfortable with it. Turns out my sisters bestfriend is actually her girlfriend. But they are both girly though? Are girly lesbians common? I thought most lesbians were butch/manly? Anyways, Im disappointed in her and I think this a just a bad phase shes going through. How do I explain this to her?
This...

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The reason I am disappointed is because I know it will cause family drama. I am disappointed in her because she didnt feel comfortable enough to tell me, at least. My family is close minded and dont support gay marriage. I am the only family member who knows, but our mom has made it clear she thinks being gay is a sin, and she told us if she ever had a gay child or a daughter that has a black boyfriend she will disown us. My dad always makes fun of gay people. I will support her, but I am just so sad she has to keep her secret from the rest of our family.
is not the same as this.
 
Old 09-27-2014, 08:11 PM
 
Location: Texas
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The reason I am disappointed is because I know it will cause family drama. I am disappointed in her because she didnt feel comfortable enough to tell me, at least. My family is close minded and dont support gay marriage. I am the only family member who knows, but our mom has made it clear she thinks being gay is a sin, and she told us if she ever had a gay child or a daughter that has a black boyfriend she will disown us. My dad always makes fun of gay people. I will support her, but I am just so sad she has to keep her secret from the rest of our family.
Your parents sound like terrible people and not worth caring about.

They are truly the definition of evil...espousing morality while living as hypocrites who violate the most basic tenets of their purported faith.

If I were you, I would be embarrassed to be associated with them.

Problem solved.
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