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Old 10-04-2014, 08:03 PM
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Don't answer your phone if you don't want to hear the drama.
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Old 10-04-2014, 10:29 PM
Location: Texas
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I know this is all frustrating to you, but what exactly can you do about it?

At some point you're just going to have to let go and let them live their lives the way they see fit. Just don't give any of them any money and don't listen to their complaints.

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Old 10-05-2014, 08:53 AM
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You don't have to listen or stay involved just because they are family.

Take the advice of others here and respond only on your terms. I'd be really embarrassed to admit how many years it took me to do that myself.

Maybe I was being a "nice guy"; maybe I was just too wimpy to deal with it.

Either way, it eventually does become your fault.
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Old 10-05-2014, 08:56 AM
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I understand that you are sick of the drama, but sometimes family is family...you can't just toss it and let go.

I think you should think about what you can do to stop the cycle.

For your sister's education situation, is there a way to motivate her to go to a state university part time? Since you said even she regrets of not going to college. If she does have the drive to go, before that...you just gotta make sure that she is majoring in something that will help her make money after graduation. It's just impossible to live with $13/hour with a kid, and she is still so young.

As for your parents, maybe you should educate them and teach them to be more financially responsible. Give them a picture of cash inflow/outflow. Also, if it's possible, store their credit cards away, so they can continue to build up their credit scores. But they would only use one credit card. If they are fine with no credit cards, just use the cash system. That way they can only spend what they have in the bank.

Good luck.
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Old 10-05-2014, 10:57 AM
Location: usa
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My sister texted me yesterday and I never responded. That's a start I guess.
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