How do you deal with Type - A's?

[cyberphonics]

I think this would've had less chance of getting off course if it didn't start off with a categorization stemming from personality theory for a thread that isn't addressing personality theory as intended by psychology, only how it's been bastardized by pop culture. But I get it. Saying "Type A/B" is a shortcut...

Originally Posted by HTY483

You know these people. Pushy, controlling, rude, inflexible, impatient, many times perfectionists and often times difficult to deal with. There's someone in my life that I can't avoid and I don't know how to deal with them. So how do you deal with these A-holes?

Depends on what you mean by "can't avoid".

Do you mean it the way most people say it where it's someone they could easily avoid if they had the testicular fortitude to distance themselves from that person, but they don't, so they act like they "have" to engage them instead?

Or do you mean it in the only way that's actually true - that it's someone you literally can't avoid because they live in your house, work alongside you, or are in charge of some aspect of your life in a way that makes communicating with them on a regular basis obligatory?

If it's the former, you deal with them by learning how not to deal with them. That starts at home (at home meaning "with yourself"). If it's the latter, build a better wall because the one you've got is penetrated too easily. That sounds like I'm being facetious, but I'm not.

The only way to deal with people you can't deal with is to get better at not letting them affect you and that's not something that has a universal tip. You can only strengthen a weakness once you know it. Figure out why you're so bothered by this person, what their personality is doing to you, and go from there.

[LakeLifePA]

Originally Posted by HTY483

You know these people. Pushy, controlling, rude, inflexible, impatient, many times perfectionists and often times difficult to deal with. There's someone in my life that I can't avoid and I don't know how to deal with them. So how do you deal with these A-holes?

Ah, you're talking about my ex-wife. I divorced her.

[NYSinger]

I'm a perfectionist type B though, but I just ignore type A's if they try to control me.

[HappyFarm34]

I can't help but laugh reading this thread. I consider myself type A but have become more relaxed over the years. So that maked me an AB type

[Teckeeee]

I am still type A, but I am quite reflective, and transitioning towards more type B. Perfectionist no, because I learned I get much farther focusing on progress not perfection.

Part of the controlling part is because I don't want to have to count on others much to complete a project because they don't have the drive so I do as much as I can to run my own projects, delegate specific tasks, and everyone is happier.

Without us type A's who do you think drives business, bookworms?

Besides I like power sharing with other type A's. When you have my trust we can take turns driving and the net effect is more is accomplished because you have 2 driven individuals that can pass the baton back and forth.

[luvmyhoss]

I just smile, nod, and walk away.

[Fiona13]

Originally Posted by cpg35223

Typically? Gin.

^^^ I concur. Except for me it would be Scotch. Best answer of thread.

[Escort Rider]

Originally Posted by Fiona13

^^^ I concur. Except for me it would be Scotch. Best answer of thread.

Worst answer of the thread. Alcohol consumption is not the "answer" to any of life's problems. It is not a legitimate or productive coping mechanism, even if many people attempt to use it as such.

[pythonis]

Wouldnt know a type A from a type W. To me people are people; theyre either cool, annoying, or morons.