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Old 10-10-2014, 07:33 AM
 
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Because I feel funny when I say it and never hear it unless it's an old movie or a sitcom taking place prior to 1970, such as I Love Lucy.

So when meeting people for the first time, what do you say or personally prefer?

PS For casual intro's I use "howdy".
If someone says "howdy", I'm reminded of the quote by Barnaby Jones - "When he tells you "howdy", he's told you everything he knows."

Nothing wrong with a "How do you do?" Sounds a lot nicer, and more intelligent, than "Yo".
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Old 10-10-2014, 07:47 AM
 
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Oh my goodness.....I say it all the time when shaking someone's hand and meeting them for the first time. Never thought it was dated or archaic, and no one that has been greeted that way has ever shown any shock or surprise at the greeting. I always thought of it as just using common manners.
Same here. although my daughter tells me I am too formal. I just feel more natural with a slight formality until I get someone's measure.

Will admit Hi How are you is common as well
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Old 10-10-2014, 10:16 AM
 
Location: Vermont
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I don't see anything wrong with it. It sounds a little formal to me. I'd probably answer I'm doing well , how are you?
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Old 10-10-2014, 10:25 AM
 
Location: Gringolandia
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I never use it. I always say "How's by you?".
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Old 10-10-2014, 10:32 AM
 
Location: Howard County, Maryland
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I generally will say "Nice to meet you" when meeting someone for the first time. But there have been a few occasions when I'm being introduced to someone whom I'd really rather not meet; people whose reputations have proceeded them, and not in a good way. In situations like that, "How do you do?" is perfect. It's polite, it's non-threatening, no one will be offended by it, and yet it saves you from having to tell the lie (even the "social white lie") that you are pleased to meet that person, when in fact you are not.
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Old 10-10-2014, 10:35 AM
 
Location: San Francisco, CA
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Oh my goodness.....I say it all the time when shaking someone's hand and meeting them for the first time. Never thought it was dated or archaic, and no one that has been greeted that way has ever shown any shock or surprise at the greeting. I always thought of it as just using common manners.
I do the same. The posters here must lead very sheltered lives if they've never heard someone use this expression.

Or else they're just "too cool for words"
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Old 10-10-2014, 11:28 AM
 
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I think "how do you do" is too formal and comes off as stiff and pretentious if you're not from a region or era where everyone says that all the time. Whether I'd think it was silly or archaic would depend on when you say it.

If a stranger walked up to me and said, "How do you do, I'm...", I'd already be giggling in my head, picturing a mustachioed duke taking my hand with his freshly pressed white glove. That or I'd be thinking this person is too precious for my taste, trying too hard to make a good impression.

I'd strongly prefer "Hi" or "Hello" (which is more formal to me than hi, but not enough to bake a cake out of it.) The exception would be if it's someone trying to sell me something. It's very common for solicitors (not legal) to say "how do you do", but that would circle back to being pretentious in the sense that they're putting on airs to sway me rather than because that's how they naturally speak.

If someone is being introduced to me, "how do you do" would be fine, but "nice to meet you" would be better because again, "how do you do" sounds unnecessarily lofty. Though I'd prefer it to "how are you?" because I prefer people only say that when they're actually expecting a response, not as an introduction.

It all depends on who you're speaking to, the context of the conversation, the environment you're in, etc. If it's a situation where everyone should be lofty and all about their how do you dos and why thank you/you're quite welcomes, then it makes sense.

Some people do have a "lofty" manner and for them, certain phrasing is more appropriate because that's actually how they speak. If they're not lofty by nature, that's when it bugs me.

I'm quite proper, but there are certain phrases that simply don't match my personality and speech and "how do you do" is one of them, so I never say it. In the same turn, if I suspect you're saying it in spite of that not actually being how you talk, I'll find it forced, dry, and awful.

Language is a fluid thing and one need not be sheltered to be unfamiliar with certain phrases or to otherwise find them out of place. It's all preference and custom. No right or wrong, really.
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Old 10-10-2014, 01:15 PM
 
Location: Florida
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Greetings in general are often odd and awkward when you think about it. You ask someone a question without actually wanting to, or sticking around to hear the answer. i.e. "how's it going?"

Im sarcastic so if someone asked me "How do you do?" Id reply, "I doodoo."
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Old 10-10-2014, 01:16 PM
 
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Oh my goodness.....I say it all the time when shaking someone's hand and meeting them for the first time. Never thought it was dated or archaic, and no one that has been greeted that way has ever shown any shock or surprise at the greeting. I always thought of it as just using common manners.
I've lived on the west coast, and in the midwest, the only greeting used for introductions that I have ever heard is "nice/pleased to meet you," and then that is repeated by the other party, there's no rudeness, or lack of manners to it. I don't know about other regions though.

Do people say "how do you do" back? To me it sounds like a question, and I would probably automatically say "fine/good," and then wonder if I should have said "how do you do."
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Old 10-10-2014, 01:30 PM
 
Location: East Millcreek
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Because I feel funny when I say it and never hear it unless it's an old movie or a sitcom taking place prior to 1970, such as I Love Lucy.

So when meeting people for the first time, what do you say or personally prefer?

PS For casual intro's I use "howdy".
In social situations pretty much everybody in my circle introduces themselves with "How do you do?" accompanied by a slight lean forward towards the person with a firm handshake (not limp and weak, not a nut-crusher either). We then move towards the bar while assessing each others socioeconomic and status and political leanings so that noncontroversial topics of conversation can be found.
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