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Old 10-10-2014, 05:44 PM
 
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Let's say it is the weekend after your birthday and you want to celebrate it with your friends. You share on your Facebook page with about 70 of your closest friends that you want to go to such and such a club on Saturday to celebrate your birthday.

Is that tacky to tell people it's your birthday? Why not just say you want to get together and hope everyone can come out Saturday for some fun? Why mention your birthday that was a few days ago? It comes across to me as someone wanting lots of presents.

Why not just post this on your Facebook page and ask everyone to come instead of picking select people? When you have 4-5 times as many friends wouldn't you be hurting someone's feelings if not on your share list?

I don't know....

You think it's tacky or ok to do?
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Old 10-10-2014, 06:02 PM
 
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Do you really have about 70 "close" friends??? I think I would have to understand what you mean by "close"

Your GOOD friends would probably know it was your birthday. The others, would be surprised. Remember, it's really not necessary that everyone bring a present.
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Old 10-10-2014, 06:10 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Wow! That's a lot of close friends.
I see nothing wrong with wanting to make your birthday special. Hell, it only comes around once a year!
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Old 10-10-2014, 06:45 PM
 
Location: Cary, NC
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If I wanted my friends to come out and celebrate my birthday with me, it would probably be a good idea to mention it was my birthday.

Also, if a friend wanted me to go out with them, my decision would certainly depend on if it was just a random hangout or a celebration for their birthday. Random hangout is just another day so probably no, birthday celebration is something special so probably yes.
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Old 10-10-2014, 07:15 PM
 
Location: Lebanon, OH
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A lot of people post on facebook that they will be at this bar or where ever for their birthday so it is becoming normal.
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Old 10-10-2014, 07:41 PM
 
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Great. Good to know that others don't think it necessary to bring a gift but to just hang out and that these days these type get-togethers are more normal.

I just didn't see why the birthday girl needed to mention that it was her birthday in order to get together with her friends. To me I took it as 'giving myself a party and singling out lots of Facebook people in hopes of not only getting together but maybe racking up on some gifts and free drinks and hoping not to hurt anyone's feelings not on my share list'.

It's not something I'd do, but good to know others don't see it as being tacky at all.
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Old 10-10-2014, 08:26 PM
 
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Honestly I don't buy birthday presents for adults, so for me it wouldn't be tacky because I wouldn't bring a gift anyways
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Old 10-10-2014, 09:29 PM
 
Location: Purgatory
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You are allowed ONE special day a year at any age- your bday! Play it up and enjoy!
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Old 10-11-2014, 12:04 AM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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You are never ever supposed to announce your own birthday. Just sit back and let your friends wish you a happy birthday.
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Old 10-11-2014, 03:17 AM
 
Location: Charlotte. Or Detroit.
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Great. Good to know that others don't think it necessary to bring a gift but to just hang out and that these days these type get-togethers are more normal.

I just didn't see why the birthday girl needed to mention that it was her birthday in order to get together with her friends. To me I took it as 'giving myself a party and singling out lots of Facebook people in hopes of not only getting together but maybe racking up on some gifts and free drinks and hoping not to hurt anyone's feelings not on my share list'.

It's not something I'd do, but good to know others don't see it as being tacky at all.
I think the bolded part is exactly what's up. And tacky as hell.
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