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Old 10-16-2014, 05:07 PM
 
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Actually, it is. People are telling a grown woman not only what to do with her boobs, but how to feed her child. That's a feminist issue. I can see the father discussing it with her--politely and without pressure--but the family needs to back off. It's none of their business how she feeds or raises her kid unless she beats the kid up or otherwise abuses the kid, and formula-feeding is not abuse. Best part is that I'd lay money that if anyone dared to criticize how they take care of their kids, there would be hell to pay. People who are that strident about parenting issues tend to be really intolerant of criticism, themselves.
There is no feminist issue here. Once she decided to have this baby the baby takes priority.

If she had only wanted to think of her own body she could have aborted the baby. (So glad she didn't!)

When parents make the baby their primary focus things work out for the best

 
Old 10-16-2014, 05:13 PM
 
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There is no feminist issue here. Once she decided to have this baby the baby takes priority.

If she had only wanted to think of her own body she could have aborted the baby. (So glad she didn't!)

When parents make the baby their primary focus things work out for the best
I don't agree. Once she decided to have this baby, she didn't sacrifice the right to determine what is best for herself, especially on something so minor. Of course the kid should be a priority in either/or situations, but this isn't one. This is not a life-or-death situation, or even a health-illness situation. Breastfeeding may have its advantages over formula-feeding, but not being breastfed is not a disadvantage, either. My mother didn't breastfeed any of her kids, and neither did one of my sisters. In the long run, it really made no difference. So in this case, I don't see where a woman should have to suffer discomfort or pain. Heck, labor and dealing with teenage rebellion 15 years later are pain enough for any mother!
 
Old 10-16-2014, 05:19 PM
 
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I don't agree. Once she decided to have this baby, she didn't sacrifice the right to determine what is best for herself. Of course the kid should be a priority in either/or situations, but this isn't one. This is not a life-or-death situation, or even a health-illness situation. Breastfeeding may have its advantages over formula-feeding, but not being breastfed is not a disadvantage, either. My mother didn't breastfeed any of her kids, and neither did one of my sisters. In the long run, it really made no difference. So in this case, I don't see where a woman should have to suffer discomfort or pain. Heck, labor and dealing with teenage rebellion 15 years later are pain enough for any mother!
Breastfeeding can be one of the most sublime experiences in the life of a mother.

The bond it creates with your child is too precious for words.

Any "discomfort" is very short-lived, quickly remedied and nothing compared to the overall benefits of the experience.

Unless you've done it you can't really understand it the way a mom who has done it will.

It's not mandatory and with today's formulas a baby can get the right nutrition by bottle but there are benefits (like the higher IQ points) that can't be ignored.

Just saying, Mom's should not let their fears stop them from at least learning all they can and being open to reaping the benefits of breastfeeding when at all possible.
 
Old 10-16-2014, 05:27 PM
 
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Breastfeeding can be one of the most sublime experiences in the life of a mother.

The bond it creates with your child is too precious for words.

Any "discomfort" is very short-lived, quickly remedied and nothing compared to the overall benefits of the experience.

Unless you've done it you can't really understand it the way a mom who has done it will.

It's not mandatory and with today's formulas a baby can get the right nutrition by bottle but there are benefits (like the higher IQ points) that can't be ignored.

Just saying, Mom's should not let their fears stop them from at least learning all they can and being open to reaping the benefits of breastfeeding when at all possible.
It doesn't work for everyone. How presumptuous of you to think you speak for all women!
 
Old 10-16-2014, 05:31 PM
 
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It doesn't work for everyone. How presumptuous of you to think you speak for all women!
I have said upthread that I understand it is not for every mother and not possible in all situations.

In addition, I would never attempt to speak for all women We are after all, all different.

Isn't that the whole point of feminism?? To celebrate our differences and support one another in our choices?

I just wrote about MY experience and what I know about the subject based on first hand knowledge.

Our OP is young. She is scared. She does not realize that there are things she can still learn on this subject. I am optimistic she will put aside her fears and concerns long enough to make an informed choice, something every feminist here should be encouraging her to do.
 
Old 10-16-2014, 05:41 PM
 
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Wow, so she should have aborted her baby now? You people are seriously insane. Get a life.
 
Old 10-16-2014, 05:43 PM
 
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Wow, so she should have aborted her baby now? You people are seriously insane. Get a life.
Who said that???

Way to miss my point if you are referring to my comment.
 
Old 10-16-2014, 05:46 PM
 
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Of course! It's still a free country

One would just hope that she would make a fully informed choice, not one based on personal "icky" feelings or fears.
What's the big deal? Not breastfeeding isn't detrimental to the baby. If she feels icky about, so what? Really, all you warmommys need to simmer down.
 
Old 10-16-2014, 05:46 PM
 
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Must be nice for all these "perfect" mothers on here to pass judgment on a girl they don't even know. If she doesn't want to breastfeed, that's her choice and her business. It's not your baby, so what do you care? I'm sure all your little snowflakes are the most perfect angels ever and are so much better and smarter than the non-breastfed heathens, so go enjoy the view from your high horse and leave her alone.
 
Old 10-16-2014, 05:48 PM
 
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Then just say that. Why bother trying to soften the blow? She doesn't care, and now, I don't either.
Well it's about time. How long before the rest follow? There's really no reason for this thread to go on as long as it has, especially with no real value to the OP in regards to her question.

Can anyone else say what it was? Without referring back the OP. Basically, this whole thread is off topic. Where's the mod to bring it back on track?
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