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Old 10-21-2014, 06:48 PM
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Location: The New England part of Ohio
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I called a relative on the phone and left him a message and it took him two weeks to get back to me.

How long should I wait before calling him back? A couple days? A week?

In the past, he would call me same day or the last day. I think he was offended because he called me one night awhile back and I had my phone turned off and I didn't get back to him until a couple days later so this was his way of "punishing" me.
Waiting two weeks to return a call is impolite and not the norm. I would not attempt to contact this person, until they contact you.

You could send and informal written card asking what is going on.

As in :Hi Jake! I wrote you about a month ago. I am hoping that everything is OK.

A few weeks is NOT the norm. If he is "punishing you" he is out of line. ,
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Old 10-21-2014, 06:56 PM
 
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Waiting two weeks to return a call is impolite and not the norm. I would not attempt to contact this person, until they contact you.

You could send and informal written card asking what is going on.

As in :Hi Jake! I wrote you about a month ago. I am hoping that everything is OK.

A few weeks is NOT the norm. If he is "punishing you" he is out of line. ,
Yeah that's what I was thinking. I thought maybe I called the wrong # in the original call and he didn't get the message....but double checked the number and it was the same one so he had to have gotten the message.

He didn't reference my original call to him in the message he left me...he just asked me to call him back when I get a chance. I think we're going to play phone tag until I answer the phone when he calls. It's a control thing I believe. He wants me to jump and be available at his command.
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Old 10-21-2014, 07:15 PM
 
Location: I am right here.
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Send him a text.
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Old 10-21-2014, 07:24 PM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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Forget it. If he doesn't return your call, you just move on and stay happy.

If he is ready, he would call you. Don't let these people "control" your emotions too much, not worth it.
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Old 10-21-2014, 07:56 PM
 
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I called him back and of course no answer. I left a message so the ball is in his court again
e-Mail or text?
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Old 10-21-2014, 09:27 PM
 
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Send him a text.
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e-Mail or text?
I just have texting capability on my work phone but don't want to send personal texts with that phone. I don't have a smart phone. I do not have his email address anymore since my computer crashed awhile back, but that might not be a bad idea to exchange emails.
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Old 10-21-2014, 09:51 PM
 
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Forget it. If he doesn't return your call, you just move on and stay happy.

If he is ready, he would call you. Don't let these people "control" your emotions too much, not worth it.

Sounds like a plan. It could be awkward at the next family gathering tho

He apparently wants an immediate response anytime he calls with no exceptions. If I didn't answer right away, it was always for a legit reason until this last time when he waited two weeks to get back to me.

I think another reason for this is that he wanted me to do make a deal with him which involved making a large purchase that I didn't want to make and he was pissed about that I think because I didn't do what he wanted me to do. He would have benefitted from the deal but I would not have (in fact I would have lost money).
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Old 10-22-2014, 12:57 AM
 
Location: The Netherlands
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I wont do the same for them. it can be anything that person did not call you right away. May be he was simply not home and got your message later. I am always my self how treat people me is their karma react is mine. So I react in a good way even to an a.s.s
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Old 10-22-2014, 01:54 AM
 
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA
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I called a relative on the phone and left him a message and it took him two weeks to get back to me.

How long should I wait before calling him back? A couple days? A week?

In the past, he would call me same day or the last day. I think he was offended because he called me one night awhile back and I had my phone turned off and I didn't get back to him until a couple days later so this was his way of "punishing" me.
I'm not you, but I wouldn't jump to conclusions. Maybe he's busy and has other priorities above chatting.
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Old 10-22-2014, 04:48 AM
 
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I called a relative on the phone and left him a message and it took him two weeks to get back to me.

How long should I wait before calling him back? A couple days? A week?
I would assume they contacted me when it was most suitable for them to do so. I would do the same when choosing when is best for me to contact them.

The length of time they took would be the LAST variable I would consider when deciding when I will do it. Not the first.
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