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Old 10-22-2014, 04:59 AM
 
Location: a primitive state
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Your family member might simply be the sort who doesn't follow up well. You can always leave a message, tell them what you wanted to say, and go about your business.
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Old 10-22-2014, 06:51 AM
 
Location: Hampstead NC
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That's just silly. Call him back at your earliest convenience. You are assuming he is being somehow manipulative so you are considering being manipulative in response. Don't read too much into it.
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Old 10-22-2014, 09:05 AM
 
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Whole lot of doormats in this thread. If someone takes 2 weeks to call back (unless this an exception), he doesn't value you so why should you call him back anytime soon unless it personally benefits you?
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Old 10-22-2014, 10:41 AM
 
Location: State of Being
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Good points. I will call him back but have a feeling it's going to be a game of phone tag. That's another reason I wanted to wait until the weekend because I'll have a better chance of getting ahold of him or vice versa but yeah that is too long to wait.
I didn't read the other posts (after your first one).

After reading that info, I think that YES - this is a control thing. Too bad you can't just text him and be done with it.

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Old 10-22-2014, 10:46 AM
 
Location: State of Being
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duplicate post - sorry
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Old 10-22-2014, 01:48 PM
 
Location: Dallas TX
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Glad you called him back instead of playing games!
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Old 10-22-2014, 02:08 PM
 
Location: SLC, UT
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This whole thing sounds lame. He got mad because he thought you ignored one call? He didn't get back to you for two weeks, and instead of thinking that he might be busy, you decide it's retalition, and now you're thinking of how best to retaliate against his retaliation? What the what?

If you want drama-rama, then go ahead and play all your weird little games. But someone who doesn't want drama would just ignore his supposed retaliation and call him back when you need to call him back. If you don't need to talk to him about anything, then call him when you do need to talk to him. If he doesn't answer, leave him a message regarding whatever it is you need to discuss and get on with your life. It's odd to even spend this much time thinking about it. If he's that unstable, then he probably doesn't sound like someone healthy to remain in regular contact with, anyway.
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Old 10-22-2014, 04:58 PM
 
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I called him back and of course no answer. I left a message so the ball is in his court again
Good. Take the high road.
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Old 10-22-2014, 05:01 PM
 
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I called a relative on the phone and left him a message and it took him two weeks to get back to me.

How long should I wait before calling him back? A couple days? A week?

In the past, he would call me same day or the last day. I think he was offended because he called me one night awhile back and I had my phone turned off and I didn't get back to him until a couple days later so this was his way of "punishing" me.


Respond when you want but you both sound childish.

I texted a friend 4 days ago and still haven't heard from her and may not for another week or two.
Who cares, people have other things in their lives to tend to and unless it was an emergency what is the big deal?
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Old 10-22-2014, 07:45 PM
 
Location: Tucson for awhile longer
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It sounds like you're trying to play games with this person, because you think this person is trying to play games with you.

I'm not really an advocate for that type of passive manipulation. If you genuinely wanted to get hold of the person, then call them right back. If you're bothered because they took so long to call you back, then say so.

But that's just me.
It's me, too. Perhaps the relative had a reason for not calling back right away. Even if s/he didn't, is there some reason you keep track this diligently? If you were calling about a family emergency, did you make that clear in your message? When I think someone's playing games with me, my response is not to play games back with them. I agree with LoriBee that practice seems passive aggressive.
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