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Old 11-01-2014, 03:57 PM
 
Location: Arizona
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Maybe he knows the OP is watching him and that is why he does it.
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Old 11-01-2014, 04:28 PM
 
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Great answer. He probably has prostate issues, and urgency is the reason he's doing it.

Then why isn't he doing it when he is with his kids or talking with other people when he gets out of his truck.. He can stand in the parking lot and talk and talk. He's a lazy old man and thinks he can do what he wants. It is a crime and if any neighbors with kids sees him he can be arrested for exposing himself. A school bus stops not far from where he does his business.... wouldn't it be great for a bus filled with small kids to see him.

The more I read the crazy posts of people who think nothing of this I think they haven't been around it or live in a place where this is acceptable. It is totally unacceptable.
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Old 11-01-2014, 04:34 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Nobody's had that experience?
Unfortunately, my experience is with pervy old men.

I will repeat what I said in this thread:

What to do when old guy neighbor comes on to you

Age does not give you a pass to just do whatever the heck you want.

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He does it repeatedly? That's another issue of age - falling into odd habits.

He does it selectively. THAT is what makes this less about "being old."
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Old 11-01-2014, 05:06 PM
 
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He had to go and you had to watch?
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Old 11-01-2014, 05:14 PM
 
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He had to go and you had to watch?
Yeah, I wait just to watch him. That is just assine.
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Old 11-01-2014, 05:34 PM
 
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Then why isn't he doing it when he is with his kids or talking with other people when he gets out of his truck.. He can stand in the parking lot and talk and talk. He's a lazy old man and thinks he can do what he wants. It is a crime and if any neighbors with kids sees him he can be arrested for exposing himself. A school bus stops not far from where he does his business.... wouldn't it be great for a bus filled with small kids to see him.

The more I read the crazy posts of people who think nothing of this I think they haven't been around it or live in a place where this is acceptable. It is totally unacceptable.
So, why did you post? You've decided to be judge and jury that the guy is a pervert and needs to be humiliated? How many times do people need to tell you that elderly people have issues with urination?

The first step should be to leave a note.
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Old 11-01-2014, 05:43 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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The first step should be to leave a note.
I think she should just notify apartment management. It's happening on common property.
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Old 11-01-2014, 05:44 PM
 
Location: Silicon Valley
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I would contact the management company. It's inappropriate behavior. It doesn't matter why he is doing it. If a 10 year old kid reports him, he is going to get in big trouble-- I'd actually mention that to the management company as well.
I retired from a resident property management job last year. If I was your property manager, I would be happy you told me about what this guy is doing.

Urine stinks. If I was your manager, I'd be aware of the stink of urine in the parking lot, and would be wondering if we had a homeless person hanging around, etc. I'd definitely be glad to know it was one of my tenants, and I could make it stop happening. Just imagine showing the grounds and apartments to prospective tenants with the strong aroma of urine in the parking lot. Pee once, and it stinks. Pee numerous times and it reeks.

If you told me about this guy, and asked me to keep it confidential that you were the one who ratted him out, I'd definitely keep it confidential as to who reported him. I'd give him a written warning that someone complained that he was urinating in the parking lot, and that it must never happen again, or he will be given notice to move out.

I wouldn't care how he had to make that happen, whether it be using Depends, or moving into an assisted living facility - whatever. WHY he pees in the parking lot doesn't matter to a property manager. It is not allowed, and he needs to figure out how to be sure it never happens again.

It's my opinion that you should not put a note on his truck. He may see you do it, or someone may tell him they saw you do it. Let management handle him. No need for him to know who ratted him out. You never know when someone may be vindictive, as in keying your car, etc. I've had that happen in the building I managed. I'm pretty sure I know who was keying cars, but had no way to prove it. So, let management handle him, is my advice.
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Old 11-01-2014, 05:44 PM
 
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Try leaving him a note. Maybe that's all you need to do. If that doesn't work, go the next step further. Since you seem to know who his kids are, say something to his children.

I wouldn't call their father a perv to their face, they'll just tune you out or get defensive. Try to put it in medical terms to start. Suggest they take their dad to a doctor.

After that sinks in, also indicate to them that what he is doing could possibly cause someone to believe he is doing it deliberately. The police could be called if it continues or adult protective services may need to get involved. That should get them to do something to deal with their father .

If neither the old man nor his children can correct the situation, then you do whatever you think you need to do.
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Old 11-01-2014, 05:53 PM
 
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So, why did you post? You've decided to be judge and jury that the guy is a pervert and needs to be humiliated? How many times do people need to tell you that elderly people have issues with urination?

The first step should be to leave a note.
As the OP mentioned, he parks his car 50 feet away from his apartment. She also mentioned that he often has family members around and does not behave this way in their presence.

If he had "issues with urination", then he could make it to his apartment. I'm thinking the amount of time it takes him to open the truck door, etc. and position himself, he would have been able to make it to his apartment.

If his urination issues are so bad, then he needs to wear an adult diaper. My Dad, who is in his late 80s, uses adult diapers. No one had to tell him to do so either. Once he started having problems, he bought adult diapers. As he told me, he said he didn't want to smell like a dirty old man.

It sounds like this man is in possession of his faculties so there is no excuse for his behavior.
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