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Old 11-02-2014, 03:08 PM
 
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would it bother you? How would you feel if your sister chose her friends over you to be the Maid of Honor and bridemaids?
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Old 11-02-2014, 03:11 PM
 
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Nope because it would mean that you didn't have to buy an ugly dress that you're never going to wear again. Being a bridesmaid is expensive. You pay for everything. Nope, invite me but don't ask me to be in your wedding.

Enjoy the wedding as a guest! And be happy that you don't have to pay for parties and dresses that you don't really want in the first place.
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Old 11-02-2014, 03:14 PM
 
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I totally agree! How great if you can just enjoy the day, and not worry about carrying bouquets, spending lots of time and money organizing bachlorette parties, and wearing whatever you want (within reason....).

You will always be her sister. There is no real honor to being a bridesmaid, let me tell you...
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Old 11-02-2014, 03:17 PM
 
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I would be hurt. How is your relationship with your sister?
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Old 11-02-2014, 03:23 PM
 
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would it bother you? How would you feel if your sister chose her friends over you to be the Maid of Honor and bridemaids?
Would not bother me in the least!

They you get to enjoy the affair. No planning showers/parties, no buying clothing you will never wear again, no dealing with issues (which CAN include a Bridezilla).

Many women are closer to friends than siblings.
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Old 11-02-2014, 03:23 PM
 
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Are you close with your sister? If not then tat might be the reason. Are you fat or otherwise "not beautiful" because as you know, weddings are often enough all about perfection, the perfect day, the perfect bride etc....

It would hurt my feelings and would cause me to look carefully at my relationship with my sister but as the others have said, count your blessings. It is expensive to be a bridesmaid.
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Old 11-02-2014, 04:00 PM
 
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I would double the size of the gift I was going to get, as a thank you! But, I'm the oldest girl in our family, and have two younger sisters. I did ask both of them to be in my wedding party. My maid of honor was my best friend.

I do think in most cases it's customary to ask siblings to be part of the wedding party, so, if you feel hurt, it's understandable.
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Old 11-02-2014, 04:03 PM
 
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I would be hurt. How is your relationship with your sister?
At the time, we hardly spoken to each other. I wasn't invited to the bachlorette party either. I forgot to mention there was another sister. She was supposed to be one of the bridemaids. Then came down with a severe mental illness. I remember asking if I could take her place and instead of me, asked another friend to.

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Are you close with your sister? If not then tat might be the reason. Are you fat or otherwise "not beautiful" because as you know, weddings are often enough all about perfection, the perfect day, the perfect bride etc....
when she got married, no... We talk but not very close. Not having someone as a bridesmaid because of their looks is very shallow thing to do. I'm a very "plain jane" and Hard of Hearing. I've seen plenty of "fat" women as bridemaids. And every wedding I've been in, all of the siblings of the bride and groom were IN the wedding.

It would hurt my feelings and would cause me to look carefully at my relationship with my sister but as the others have said, count your blessings. It is expensive to be a bridesmaid.
It's the one reason we're not very close.
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Old 11-02-2014, 04:03 PM
 
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would it bother you? How would you feel if your sister chose her friends over you to be the Maid of Honor and bridemaids?

I don't have a sister but I'm sure I would be grateful that I did not have the added stress and expense of being part of the wedding party.


How in the world do you "come down with a severe mental illness"? It isn't like Mental Illness is a virus that you catch one day.
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Old 11-02-2014, 04:05 PM
 
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I would double the size of the gift I was going to get, as a thank you! But, I'm the oldest girl in our family, and have two younger sisters. I did ask both of them to be in my wedding party. My maid of honor was my best friend.

I do think in most cases it's customary to ask siblings to be part of the wedding party, so, if you feel hurt, it's understandable.
She didn't even ask me if I wanted to. But asked our other sister who didn't even up being in the wedding party because of her illness
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