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Old 11-08-2014, 10:44 PM
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Location: Bakersfield, Ca
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I personally believe that big opulent rings and expensive weddings (vow renewals) should be reserved for a 10 year anniversary - if those things still matter to you then, well, you've earned it!
That's what we had to do . We met in Europe and had 90 days to marry or be separated possibly forever . We have been married in Holland ( city hall of his town which is normal ) and in the US . Just us and both of us had kids . It cost gas to drive to the courthouse , buy the license then return 3 days later and got married . Our children were all against this and still aren't too happy . We don't care . They were grown or older teens . We got back home just in time to pick up my kindergartner from school ( whom he adopted legally 3 years later ). I wore a cute top and some capris , this was a tropical coastal climate and were 40 and 42 . Now its been 10 years and my husband wants to do it again better . MAN we were broke but wanted to be together for good. We are still like little twins. I fully admit I wished I could have had a beautiful wedding in this life but it just wasn't in the cards for me so I made it the best we could .. we all went to Dairy Queen that night and had chocolate malts !! Well he had the malt I had an icee . Tiny daughter had an ice cream cone . He raised her perfectly and all is peaceful .
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Old 11-09-2014, 02:13 AM
 
Location: U.S.A., Earth
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I've had a coworker who was in northern Virginia at the time with his fiancée also living and working there. They deliberately had their wedding in the Caribbean to keep the # of guests low... something about crowd control.

Some folks say a pricy wedding can better affirm the commitment, but I'd have disagree with that, regardless of whether or not you could really afford it or not. It should be neutral, if not worse.
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Old 11-09-2014, 03:47 AM
 
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2.) The cost. {...} His sister said, "Ours only cost 16 grand"
$16,000 is enough for a down payment on a nice house. A wedding ceremony is only one day; a house lasts decades and increases in value.
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Old 11-09-2014, 04:20 AM
 
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I use to get tons of wedding invites...

some of the expensive ones were challenging - but I felt obligated since they thought of me enough to invite me- I was young and foolish,,,

now, if I get an invite,,,,i look for the word "pig-roast" or lobster-bake ... at the reception,,,, and know its going to be a good time
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Old 11-09-2014, 07:17 AM
 
Location: LEAVING CD
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Nowhere else in the world would people pay to have rodents at a catered event.
^^^^^Best comment so far^^^^^
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Old 11-09-2014, 08:13 AM
 
Location: NYC
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I use to get tons of wedding invites...

some of the expensive ones were challenging - but I felt obligated since they thought of me enough to invite me- I was young and foolish,,,

now, if I get an invite,,,,i look for the word "pig-roast" or lobster-bake ... at the reception,,,, and know its going to be a good time
I look for the words 'open bar'. I'm easy.

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Old 11-09-2014, 08:35 AM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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I use to get tons of wedding invites...

some of the expensive ones were challenging - but I felt obligated since they thought of me enough to invite me- I was young and foolish,,,

now, if I get an invite,,,,i look for the word "pig-roast" or lobster-bake ... at the reception,,,, and know its going to be a good time
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I look for the words 'open bar'. I'm easy.
I'd go for any of those!
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Old 11-09-2014, 09:09 AM
 
Location: Columbus, OH
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After my now-husband proposed to me and we were talking about wedding plans, I looked at him and told him, we're not having a fancy wedding and you better not buy me an expensive ring because I'd rather take that money and get a house or a car! I still don't have a wedding band, I have my mom's engagement ring from when her and my Dad got married like 35 years ago (it's very nice and I told my husband I wanted to have my mom's ring), and we got married outside the court house in a cute gazebo for under $100 on a nice Summer day. I wore a blue $20 dress and my husband wore jeans and a blue polo. On my side we invited my mom, step-dad, dad, and sister. On my husband's side we invited his mom, his mom's long-term bf, his aunt, uncle, grandma and grandpa. It was a nice intimate ceremony and I wouldn't change a thing. I think we spent maybe $150 altogether?

Now if I was rich and $30k was pocket-change to me, then maybe? I'm just not a materialistic person at all I guess and can't imagine dropping that kind of money for a few hours of enjoyment.
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Old 11-09-2014, 09:20 AM
 
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After my now-husband proposed to me and we were talking about wedding plans, I looked at him and told him, we're not having a fancy wedding and you better not buy me an expensive ring because I'd rather take that money and get a house or a car! I still don't have a wedding band, I have my mom's engagement ring from when her and my Dad got married like 35 years ago (it's very nice and I told my husband I wanted to have my mom's ring), and we got married outside the court house in a cute gazebo for under $100 on a nice Summer day. I wore a blue $20 dress and my husband wore jeans and a blue polo. On my side we invited my mom, step-dad, dad, and sister. On my husband's side we invited his mom, his mom's long-term bf, his aunt, uncle, grandma and grandpa. It was a nice intimate ceremony and I wouldn't change a thing. I think we spent maybe $150 altogether?

Now if I was rich and $30k was pocket-change to me, then maybe? I'm just not a materialistic person at all I guess and can't imagine dropping that kind of money for a few hours of enjoyment.
I agree and pretty much did the same.

People that spend 10... 20... 50... 100 thousand on a wedding always give me the impression that they're just poor people pretending to be rich.

I could harp on about how ever since I was a kid I wanted a Lamborghini and so now that I have a drivers license I should get my way, but I'd sound just as ridicules as the original poster. Never mind I could buy a 2nd hand Lambo for $80g's, drive it for a year (and pray it didn't break down) and then sell it for about the same - so it makes more financial sense than an expensive wedding.
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Old 11-09-2014, 11:17 AM
 
Location: Santa Cruz
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I use to get tons of wedding invites...

some of the expensive ones were challenging - but I felt obligated since they thought of me enough to invite me- I was young and foolish,,,

now, if I get an invite,,,,i look for the word "pig-roast" or lobster-bake ... at the reception,,,, and know its going to be a good time
LOL!!
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