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@convextech what attitude? no really... (Er, you know when I'm saying life advice, it's people telling me I should be a doctor or nurse because, get this, my attitude seems suited for it. Despite the fact I'm in law school. People say whatever they want to me, without thinking. Like I said people think I'm laid back and 'too nice' just because I don't jump to negative conclusions.) I don't take it out on anyone, honestly, how did you get that? (Actually want to know)
What I'm getting out of these answers is therapy and anger management. I'm open to therapy. However, anger management probably actually requires me to feel emotions beyond being mildly pissed. I exaggerated to get my point across, which I now regret, but I know what it feels like to be angry, this is annoyance. And only that because it's happened to me my entire life and did not stop when I reached a mature age as I previously expected.
I guess I don't see anything insulting about the bolded? Are you saying equating you to a nurse or doctor is the same as saying you're ditzy and don't have common sense? I'm not really sure exactly what?
Okay... but they were recommending pharmacy schools... and scholarships... but I clearly wasn't interested... I'm pretty sure they were asking me to go to a medical school, ma'am.
Tentatively: I just told you it's annoyance, why would I even lie about that? It's an anon forum, for the express purpose of soliciting accurate advice. Also, it's difficult to get me actually angry. I cry easily because I have high expectations of myself and when I fail them I feel emotions of frustration. People have straight out told me out of nowhere that I'm 'so laid back,' when I clearly disagree. That's the problem. I don't think my super secret rage that you are telling me I have is the issue. Really, it's more of a sighing issue. Minor, but annoying. If people know me long enough, for years, then they give me more credit, even my parents when they actually saw me working/studying. Adurps.
@ocnjgirl
No, that was just brought up when I said I wanted to be a lawyer. I don't think badly of the medical profession, but it was rly unsolicited. Also they thought my temperament was not suited to be a lawyer, and I should therefore I guess drop out of law school on their earnest advice. Because I was..... nice.
Okay let's just assume a prima facie case that the problem exists where everyone assumes I am very laid back and rly nice and little-kiddish, but in reality I am fully capable of going through life without unsolicited opinions about everything from my clothes to my job. How do I appear as a person who you do not heap mounds of "Aw, let me take care of you" on?
Good. How do I translate this onto my face? How do you do it?
@oh-eve
Ok. I'm not sure what this means, plz clarify.
In the past, when someone asked me to place things or do things I thought about many variations, and when I asked to clarify, people would call me stupid and call the correct option common sense. So I assumed they were correct, since it was a majority opinion. Then later we were taught these variations of thought in school, and it was supposed to be amazing or something. And then after a few tests and stuff they started calling me genius!!! president!!! Also inaccurate. So I'm putting common sense down as a social grace?
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