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"Just livin' day by day"
(set 22 days ago)
Location: USA
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Originally Posted by Pitt Chick
So why are you getting involved - even if just emotionally - again?
Learn from your mistakes.
We aren't the closest friends anymore because of what happened in the past. I tend to get attached to people and have difficulty letting things go when bird poop hits the fan. She gets herself in relationships one after another that go sour after a few years.
Location: Scott County, Tennessee/by way of Detroit
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I listened to a friend about all the things that her soon to be ex did to her and how she was so upset and hated his guts..blah blah blah....this went on for months....then I hear she's insanely happy and he's going to change and the holidays were great etc etc etc.....if she is happy so am I.....
When my son got divorced, it confused everyone because they lived under the same roof through the end of the school year for the kids. They came to visit us in Florida as a family and slept in the same bed. More confusion. Little by little they found their 'divorce legs' now they're both in new relationships and they pretty much hate each other. Like others have said, it's not your business. Let them be.
We aren't the closest friends anymore because of what happened in the past. I tend to get attached to people and have difficulty letting things go when bird poop hits the fan. She gets herself in relationships one after another that go sour after a few years.
Stop trying to save people who don't want to be 'saved'. Get your own life and focus on that.
I could have wrote that post myself - almost anyway! I have a friend like this. We've been friends for 20 years and she always ends up picking either losers and/or control freaks. It breaks my heart because she's such a hard working individual and if she doesn't get it together, she's going to end up [Our Town name] trash living off welfare, a bunch of kids, living with her parents, etc... It's so so sad....
However, it's not our place to judge and more often than not (as we've both apparently learned) our opinions about their choices aren't welcome. So what I do is ignore anything that I don't agree with. For example if she is complaining about her bf, I'll say "That's lame." then quickly change the subject. She doesn't want to hear my opinion on it and I don't want to hear her complain about it (then subsequently do jack to fix it but come back complaining a week later about the same thing).
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We aren't the closest friends anymore because of what happened in the past. I tend to get attached to people and have difficulty letting things go when bird poop hits the fan. She gets herself in relationships one after another that go sour after a few years.
