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I’m 27 and it is very rare that I meet someone my age who isn't into drinking and/or smoking. I recently moved to the UK, where everybody (95%) drinks and smokes and I’m definitely not into that kind of “social life”.
Whenever there’s an event or a get together, it has to be at a bar/pub. Am I the only one noticing this? Could it only be happening in my entourage?
I'm not sure if what's the norm here is the norm in the UK. My kids are very into outdoor activities, so there's a lot of camping, hiking, etc involved in socializing for them. They do meet friends at bars, but usually in conjunction with a sporting event on TV that they want to watch in that setting. You cannot smoke indoors at the vast majority of bars in the US, so it's not really an issue here.
You know you CAN go to a pub and not drink alcohol. It's par for the course in the UK for get-togethers to be held at a pub which for centuries has been the traditional hub of social activity in every town and village. US bars in general just don't have that same ambiance - and Lord knows I've been to thousands! Many pubs also have social events that don't entail standing around the bar swigging a pint. In time you may find your comfort zone changing and get to enjoy then!
Once you settle into your new life you'll find tons of things to do that don't revolve around pub crawling. Have fun!
Nope. Many single people are in meetup groups, local sports leagues, running marathons, hiking, camping, going to games, traveling & volunteering. Internet opened many doors & gave access to others who share your interests so you dont have to get stuck with the same friends in a crowded, dark, loud bar every weekend.
Seems this should be put in the UK thread over at that international subforum.
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It's par for the course in the UK for get-togethers to be held at a pub which
for centuries has been the traditional hub of social activity in every town and
village.
Sounds like the UK pub is a lot like the German kniepe(sp?) or gasthaus
Pub, the name is rooted in the word, public, or public house. Yeah, we don't have a lot of public places that are amenable to gatherings other than the local pubs which serve this purpose gladly. Someone wrote about a thing they called "A Third Place", that would be a place that isn't work or home, America doesn't have much to offer other than the Pub. The third place could be a coffee shop, bar, book store, bakery, or community center, the idea has caught on in so many small towns that have a tourist draw but the cities are still devoid of such meeting houses for the most part.
After finding myself single at 62 I realized the plight of older single Americans and their need for a second place now that they were retired. Living in a very small town meant living in a small circle of widowers and the few solo drinkers at the local Tavern. I joined a local fraternal organization just to have a different venue of socialization, they held dances and dinners that gave us oldies a chance to meet and greet.
I’m 27 and it is very rare that I meet someone my age who isn't into drinking and/or smoking. I recently moved to the UK, where everybody (95%) drinks and smokes and I’m definitely not into that kind of “social life”.
Whenever there’s an event or a get together, it has to be at a bar/pub. Am I the only one noticing this? Could it only be happening in my entourage?
Nope, I'm 28 and lived in 3 extremely different US states in the last 5 years and that's just what people do. I don't even think you can say "people our age" either because my bf has a friend from work who's 19 and.. Same thing. My mom and her friends.. Same thing. So boring. :/
I’m 27 and it is very rare that I meet someone my age who isn't into drinking and/or smoking. I recently moved to the UK, where everybody (95%) drinks and smokes and I’m definitely not into that kind of “social life”.
Whenever there’s an event or a get together, it has to be at a bar/pub. Am I the only one noticing this? Could it only be happening in my entourage?
Pretty much. Social life in high school has more variety. When you're an adult, "going out" means drinking at a bar or club. That's how people find hookup partners as well.
Well, you can always go to church services and prey.
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