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Old 01-18-2015, 10:38 AM
 
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My gatherings are the same, as are those of my friends - and none of my older friends yatter on about their medical issues either as we have lots of other things to talk about!

Us too!

And this group is made up of people who often go south for the winters for work. So, we are having a tropical party in the frozen north, being envious of people like you!
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Old 01-18-2015, 11:16 AM
 
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a couple definitions before i begin...

close friends = not acquaintances, but people you talk to and hang out with reguarly (like couple times a week at minimum)
a lot younger = 5-10 years younger

i think it's so weird, awkward, and more importantly wasteful when you have close friends that are a lot younger than you. for example, if i'm in college (21) it makes no logical sense to hang out with someone still in middle school. if i'm a young adult (30), it makes no sense to hang out with someone back in college. priorities are different. i think everyone should be close to people 5-10 years OLDER. if i'm 21, i want to hang out with some driven successful young adults. if i'm 30, i want to be close with people who have families and settled

by being close with someone older, you learn and mature and grow.
by being close with someone younger, you become a babysitter or just want to have fun

my opinion, what are yours?
You could've omitted your age and we could still tell how young you are with a post like this.

You should be aware of the gaping hole in your logic.
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Old 01-18-2015, 11:37 AM
 
Location: Chicago area
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I hear what you're saying unknown00 but it does depend on what age group you're in. I have friends in all age groups from the shorties in my life to people ten years older. They all make my life richer. When I was in my 20's I doubt very much that I'd want to hang out with teenagers and I did gravitate towards older people back then. For almost 30 years my best friend was about 8 years older then I was. Now I tend to gravitate towards people younger then I am because people in my age group can't keep up with me
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Old 01-18-2015, 11:46 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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a couple definitions before i begin...

close friends = not acquaintances, but people you talk to and hang out with reguarly (like couple times a week at minimum)
a lot younger = 5-10 years younger

i think it's so weird, awkward, and more importantly wasteful when you have close friends that are a lot younger than you. for example, if i'm in college (21) it makes no logical sense to hang out with someone still in middle school. if i'm a young adult (30), it makes no sense to hang out with someone back in college. priorities are different. i think everyone should be close to people 5-10 years OLDER. if i'm 21, i want to hang out with some driven successful young adults. if i'm 30, i want to be close with people who have families and settled

by being close with someone older, you learn and mature and grow.
by being close with someone younger, you become a babysitter or just want to have fun

my opinion, what are yours?
People make friendships with others of a wide variety of ages based on common interests and similar levels of intelligence. Bright, creative people are interesting to hang out with no matter what their age.

Why would you want to be close with people who have families just because you're 30? Most 30-year-olds are friends with other singles. If you're 21, typically you're hanging out with college students. Few people are "driven" and successful at 21.
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Old 01-18-2015, 11:55 AM
 
Location: Chicago - Logan Square
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I agree that it doesn't matter after a certain age, I'd say around 25 or so. I'm coming up on 50 and have good friends who range from 20 years older to 20 years younger than me.

Last edited by Attrill; 01-18-2015 at 12:17 PM..
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Old 01-18-2015, 12:14 PM
 
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I find I click with certain people and I don't really pay attention to age. I have friends about 20 years younger than me and some older. It's more about how we get along and our interests than age.
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Old 01-18-2015, 12:43 PM
 
Location: FLG/PHX/MKE
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I think there are big milestones that take place across a lifetime that may impact age disparate relationships or friendships. I don't see it as "weird" as much as I see it as "challenging". One of my friends has some thing where all his friends are in their 20s. He is in his 40s. He keeps getting more young friends and it's getting to be a little creepy, to be honest. But he's an extreme example.
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Old 01-18-2015, 02:37 PM
 
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That's it.

Come by later and join a dinner I'm having. Off the top of my head there will be people here who are 91, 83, 57, 56, 52, 39,36, 29, 28, and 25. And only two are related.
Should I bring dessert?
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Old 01-18-2015, 02:37 PM
 
Location: Central Indiana/Indy metro area
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I'm approaching 40 and my wife is early 30s. We won't be having children, yet all my friends from my age group that I grew up with have kids. I used to see them a lot, but anymore they are busy with kid things. I also work in higher ed, and my co-workers are in their late teens to 20s and beyond. Many of the younger folks are totally shocked when I tell them how old I am. I am blessed to look about ten years younger than I am. If something happened to my wife and I ended up single again in my 40s, I definitely could see myself selling our suburban home and living in our downtown area where there is a lot of apartment units being built. While I would still be much older for sure, I can easily see myself hanging out with my 20 something and 30 something co-workers from time to time, though I'm not sure how they would feel about it. I think it would be easier for a single mid 40s person to hangout with single mid 30s people, especially if trying to find someone to date. Ten years for a relationship is about the limit that most people would consider normal.

I think working with younger people, listening to modern music, dressing how they dress, and definitely staying in shape and keeping a youthful look makes it easier to associate with younger generations. Knowing what is in and the language they speak, also helps. I've noticed that many really are OK socially. I think what gets them is that some of us older folks almost don't "act our age" as one likely would have seen historically. The biggest aging of people seems to be having kids as well as getting lazy and out-of-shape. Below that is being stuck in the past, listening to the music you came of age with, not staying constant with clothing trends and current day cultural stuff.
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Old 01-18-2015, 03:20 PM
 
Location: Fairbanks, AK
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Uh uh, sorry. At 48 most of my friends are well on their way to becoming fat old ladies who never want to go do anything active. As I am fighting tooth and nail to not become one myself, I have younger friends. Friends who like to go camping and hiking and canoeing, etc. with me. Benefits them in that I have all the gear. Benifits me in having active friends.
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