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My wife and I chose to let her grandmother stay with us because we believed that she needed help. What we found out was that she is cruel and selfish and is not happy unless she is making my wife miserable. I am a combat veteran with PTSD and I am trying my best to not react because if I do I will explode. We asked her to leave and now she is trying to get legal aid so as to fight us and tie everything up for as long as possible no one will help her and so it leaves us making her homeless but she is causing so many issues and confusing my children and scaring them when she flips out. Does anyone have any ideas on how to get her out before I lose my mind?
My wife and I chose to let her grandmother stay with us because we believed that she needed help. What we found out was that she is cruel and selfish and is not happy unless she is making my wife miserable. I am a combat veteran with PTSD and I am trying my best to not react because if I do I will explode. We asked her to leave and now she is trying to get legal aid so as to fight us and tie everything up for as long as possible no one will help her and so it leaves us making her homeless but she is causing so many issues and confusing my children and scaring them when she flips out. Does anyone have any ideas on how to get her out before I lose my mind?
Is it YOUR home, or is it HER home?
If it is YOUR home, what is she "tieing up"?
Find a local home for the elderly, and move her into it.
If it is HER home, move out.
Do you own the home ? Then you will have to legally evict her. If she has been there more than thirty days she has established tenancy rights.
Give her, in writing, thirty days notice to move out. While you're doing that go to your local housing court and file notice to evict. Only a court can legally order an eviction and they can't do that until you tell them you want her gone.
Check with your local elder care agency and get her a social worker who will help her elderly housing. If she has no funds of her own, they'll help her file for Medicaid, get food stamps, get into senior housing, etc.
Grandma is terrified of being out on the streets so she is making it hard to leave. If she had options, things might go better for all of you. Find her help. If she knows she has somewhere else to go, you might not have to evict.
My wife and I chose to let her grandmother stay with us because we believed that she needed help. What we found out was that she is cruel and selfish and is not happy unless she is making my wife miserable. I am a combat veteran with PTSD and I am trying my best to not react because if I do I will explode. We asked her to leave and now she is trying to get legal aid so as to fight us and tie everything up for as long as possible no one will help her and so it leaves us making her homeless but she is causing so many issues and confusing my children and scaring them when she flips out. Does anyone have any ideas on how to get her out before I lose my mind?
Find out what the eviction process is in your state. You can evict her but you have to follow the law.
Willow Wind & Momma_Bear are correct. At this time you should find out about elder laws and eviction process in your state.
You may also be able to leverage the fact that she is scaring your children - you may want to check with Social Services on that - Social Services may be able to remove the threat to your children from your home faster than you can via an eviction.
Willow Wind & Momma_Bear are correct. At this time you should find out about elder laws and eviction process in your state.
You may also be able to leverage the fact that she is scaring your children - you may want to check with Social Services on that - Social Services may be able to remove the threat to your children from your home faster than you can via an eviction.
Good luck!
You need legal advice. Since she is seeking free legal aid, you need to visit an attorney for a consultation to know your rights in the state you live in.
Are there other family members who would shelter her for a time until she can find another place to stay?
At any rate, get some good legal advice. You need it.
Do you own the home ? Then you will have to legally evict her. If she has been there more than thirty days she has established tenancy rights.
Give her, in writing, thirty days notice to move out. While you're doing that go to your local housing court and file notice to evict. Only a court can legally order an eviction and they can't do that until you tell them you want her gone.
Check with your local elder care agency and get her a social worker who will help her elderly housing. If she has no funds of her own, they'll help her file for Medicaid, get food stamps, get into senior housing, etc.
Grandma is terrified of being out on the streets so she is making it hard to leave. If she had options, things might go better for all of you. Find her help. If she knows she has somewhere else to go, you might not have to evict.
Just do it.
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