Is this being two-faced or something else? (person)
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I don't understand people like this: They really don't like you very much or completely dislike you but they will be all sweet & nice and talk and laugh with you.
If I don't like someone, I will avoid them or, if it's a work situation, will only speak with them if necessary.
I don't understand how you can be all talkative and laughing with someone you really don't like. It makes no sense to me at all. If I don't like you, I don't want you in my life and I definitely don't want to talk and laugh with you.
I try to be civil to everybody- unless they give me a reason not to. But I don't go out of my way to associate with anyone I don't like, or when I know they don't like me.
I try to be civil to everybody- unless they give me a reason not to. But I don't go out of my way to associate with anyone I don't like, or when I know they don't like me.
Being civil is one thing --- being all nicey-nice, laughing and talking with someone who you've said on multiple occasions that you dislike is another.
I don't understand people like this: They really don't like you very much or completely dislike you but they will be all sweet & nice and talk and laugh with you.
If I don't like someone, I will avoid them or, if it's a work situation, will only speak with them if necessary.
I don't understand how you can be all talkative and laughing with someone you really don't like. It makes no sense to me at all. If I don't like you, I don't want you in my life and I definitely don't want to talk and laugh with you.
I'm nice to people I don't like. I work with 10 or 15 people on a daily basis, some of whom I don't like all that much. However I have to work with them 8 hours a day, and I don't want to work in a place with tension. It's not important to me that the person in question know I don't like them, and IMO that's the only reason to go out of your way to avoid someone or snub them, so that they know...what does that accomplish except to make work more unpleasant than it is, and also make me look lower in my co-worker and bosses eyes? I'm there to do a job, and part of the job responsibilities in any job is to get along with co-workers and work as a team.
I'm nice to people I don't like. I work with 10 or 15 people on a daily basis, some of whom I don't like all that much. However I have to work with them 8 hours a day, and I don't want to work in a place with tension. It's not important to me that the person in question know I don't like them, and IMO that's the only reason to go out of your way to avoid someone or snub them, so that they know...what does that accomplish except to make work more unpleasant than it is, and also make me look lower in my co-worker and bosses eyes? I'm there to do a job, and part of the job responsibilities in any job is to get along with co-workers and work as a team.
^What OCJGirl said.
Also, I prefer to not hold grudges, so if someone did something forgivable such as lost their patience or temper under stress, forgot to do something, etc., I tend to want to forgive them and move on. It's mostly because I prefer to not dwell in negative thoughts and to not create stress for myself.
There is a difference between me not liking some-one and me trying to offend them. I may no like you, but choose not to initiate a conflict.
This isn't about trying to offend or initiate conflict. THe question was/is, why would someone who clearly dislikes another person talk and laugh with them even though the do not like them?
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