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Old 12-08-2010, 07:52 PM
 
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Most of my female friends donít dress up or even wear makeup, but I love to do both.

They all went to college and I did not.

I just hang out with whoever treats me well, really!
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Old 12-08-2010, 09:14 PM
 
Location: The Jar
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I love to watch people over at the huge regional shopping mall near my home. One thing I have been noticing recently is the physical and style similarities of people who hang out together. People seem to have a sixth sense for determining where they fit in the beauty, class, style, and social status front and pick friends who are similar in that way.

While there are serious exceptions, I notice that most women who hang out together seem to be of equal status when it comes to their appearance, weight, social and economic status, and popularity. For example, rarely will you see a very overweight woman friends with a real skinny woman. Beautiful girls will hang out with other beauty queens. Women who buy really expensive looking clothes will hang out with others who share a similar fashion and spending philosophy.

How are your friends when it comes to matching your social, economic and appearance status? (No PC talk or denial people!)
Nope.
My friends tend to come from every walk of life.
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Old 12-08-2010, 10:27 PM
 
Location: North Western NJ
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in terms of "status" monetary wise, while none of us are rich we all come form different financial, work and family backgrounds....
in terms of "look" you couldnt find a more vareid group, slim, fat and everythign between, tall short and anywhere between that...looks wise clothing and personal taste ect were all Very different...

we are all kinky, and we all work/love rennaisance faires, beyond that...
we dont even officially have a 'pretty" one in the group or 'quiet one" ect...we all fill all niches (though there is one girl in our frineds group who i personally think is STUNNING, all the girls are pretty, yet so different...i love our group dynamics lol
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Old 12-08-2010, 11:09 PM
 
Location: Sacramento CA
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I'm wondering why anyone would want to surround themselves only with the like-minded? Seems kind of sheltered/ shallow to me.

As for me, my friends are all over the board. Different races, different classes, different looks. I don't find myself the least bit good looking, so to me, all my friends are better looking than me! And my best-friend is a money-making-machine and I'm a stay-at-home wife. Go figure!

Guess what I look for in friends is, are they good people? Then let's give 'em a shot at friendship.

I am this way. I make the occasional exception, but overall I find I click with those more like me whether it be online or whatever have you. I mean I am trying to move to Portland because more people there are/were in my situation. So yes, I try to get around as many like minded as I possibly can.
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Old 12-08-2010, 11:17 PM
 
Location: Sacramento CA
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Most people's friends are like them. The friends we chose are a reflection of who we are. This makes sense because people who are like you have the same interests, personalities and enjoy doing similar things.

I find it very funny when guys complain about how women don't like their friends. What she is saying indirectly is that she doesn't like YOU.



Don't start with the list of 23,434 exceptions to the rule.
This didn't occur to me, but it really could be true. Not in ALL cases, but I think it does have some weight to it.

Why stay married then? I know I don't like the idea of someone married to me who tells me indirectly that she doesn't like me through my friends.
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Old 12-09-2010, 09:11 AM
 
Location: colorado
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I love to watch people over at the huge regional shopping mall near my home. One thing I have been noticing recently is the physical and style similarities of people who hang out together. People seem to have a sixth sense for determining where they fit in the beauty, class, style, and social status front and pick friends who are similar in that way.

While there are serious exceptions, I notice that most women who hang out together seem to be of equal status when it comes to their appearance, weight, social and economic status, and popularity. For example, rarely will you see a very overweight woman friends with a real skinny woman. Beautiful girls will hang out with other beauty queens. Women who buy really expensive looking clothes will hang out with others who share a similar fashion and spending philosophy.

How are your friends when it comes to matching your social, economic and appearance status? (No PC talk or denial people!)

Of course they are...my ex wasnt up to par when we met..I showed him how to dress...showed him how to have class..he nows dresses nice..were not together but at least he looks better..
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Old 12-09-2010, 09:24 AM
 
Location: Toronto
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Both equality in social status and equality in appearance are, to a large degree, subjective and a matter of perception.
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