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But when people say "helicopter parents" I think many mean that those parents say that their kids do no wrong no matter what they do - that's definitely not us.
"Helicopter parents" refers to over-protective parents who constantly "hover" over their kids and never allow them out of their sight. Helicopters hover. So parents who hover are helicopter parents.
They may often end up being the same parents who think their kids do no wrong, but that's not what the term refers to.
"Helicopter parents" refers to over-protective parents who constantly "hover" over their kids and never allow them out of their sight. Helicopters hover. So parents who hover are helicopter parents.
They may often end up being the same parents who think their kids do no wrong, but that's not what the term refers to.
Yeah, I know what it's supposed to mean but I think it's evolved into the inclusion of not only hovering but also having a "jimmy can do no wrong" attitude. Which is in the severely overprotective category I suppose.
We are nowhere near people who hover and don't let our kid out of our sight. If we had it our way, he would be out of our sight much more than he is! We need a friggin' break!
I had the sex talk and books given to me. However when it came to financing, figuring out college, a career, buying home, zip nada zilch. I wish they did, and have spoken to my children a bit about this, but will keep it up as needed.
I grew up with my dad breeding litters of pups in our back yard. I can't remember a time when I didn't know how babies were made. But when we had sex ed in 5th grade, we were very excited about it. To our great disappointment, we only covered amoebas on the first day.
I'm a tail-boomer. When my dad learned while I was in high school that I had my first girl friend he gave me "the talk." I remember he was passing me in the hallway, said "So, you have a girlfriend now?"
"Yes."
"Be careful, you're carrying a loaded gun now." Then he went about his business.
It took me about an hour to figure out what he was talking about.
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I didn't get the talk when I was a kid. I went to Catholic school and we had "guidance" classes which were about periods and about only using natural family planning. We had to take the worksheets home for our parents to sign. I think at that point our parents were supposed to ask if we had any questions. My dad, who would have been more likely to answer questions, was out of town. My mom would turn bright red, sign the paper, and say, "Put that dirty thing away."
Fortunately, I was very good at educating myself and found the information I needed at the library. I also figured out what to say to my mom so I could see a gynecologist, and I figured out what to say to the gynecologist so I could get the pill.
My sister was in a college class where they were talking about what kind of "the talk" they got from their parents. My dad picked her up from the class and she told him what they'd been discussing, and that she realized that she'd never gotten any kind of talk like that when she was a kid. My dad said he was sorry and asked if there was anything that she needed to know, when she was already in college. I thought that was kind of adorable.
My kids have books about puberty and we give them very frank answers to their many questions. It's just not something that I'm ashamed or shy about discussing, although my husband gets pretty embarrassed sometimes. His mom did talk about sex a lot when he was a kid, but it was scary stuff like, "Don't go near any vans because a man will grab you and pull down your pants and ---------" He says his real sex ed came from Job Corps.
I don't recall how old I was, maybe 9 or 10, when a girl who attended our church was raped. I asked about it and mother said the man was old and when a man is old his penis sometimes becomes like concrete and it really hurts a girl. I have no clue what her goal was in telling me this, but I never forgot it.
My parents never had "the talk". I actually think I was better off learning from books at the library and I once found a copy of the Masters and Johnson best-seller at a relative's house.
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