Please talk to me, it's just the two of us men at these family events! (wife, father)
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Have you been thrown together at family events with people you would not have anything to do with if they were not family?
At Easter there will be four men at my parents home. 1) My father who only says about five words to anyone a year. 2) Len, a sisters husband, who has no personality at all and will go down the basement and sit in a chair all alone; 3) Myself; and 4) Jeff. The woman are off in the kitchen in their girl talk talking about hairstyles, cooking, shoes and makeup.
I am a fish out of water counting down the hours until the event is over. Logically Jeff and I would bond and we could chat and make the whole thing easier to take. He is a high powered Attorney and gives me shade. He is too important to deal with the likes of me. So he just sits in the room and plays with his Smartphone. All attempts at conversation have not worked with Jeff.
Jeff: Please talk to me! If you were me would you keep trying? Or sit and play with my SmartPhone too. (If you can't beat them, join them.)
Have you been thrown together at family events with people you would not have anything to do with if they were not family?
At Easter there will be four men at my parents home. 1) My father who only says about five words to anyone a year. 2) Len, a sisters husband, who has no personality at all and will go down the basement and sit in a chair all alone; 3) Myself; and 4) Jeff. The woman are off in the kitchen in their girl talk talking about hairstyles, cooking, shoes and makeup.
I am a fish out of water counting down the hours until the event is over. Logically Jeff and I would bond and we could chat and make the whole thing easier to take. He is a high powered Attorney and gives me shade. He is too important to deal with the likes of me. So he just sits in the room and plays with his Smartphone. All attempts at conversation have not worked with Jeff.
Jeff: Please talk to me! If you were me would you keep trying? Or sit and play with my SmartPhone too. (If you can't beat them, join them.)
Why don't you tell Jeff that since he is a high powered attorney he should give your parents the money to pay their last four mortgage payments and their thousands of dollars of credit card debt? (from your thread in personal finance).
Try to talk with Jeff again, if he won't talk with you, join the women in the kitchen (I bet that they would enjoy some help with cooking and clean-up) or just sit right next to Jeff reading a good book. How about playing catch or a game with some of the kids? Can you invite a male friend, perhaps someone without a family, to join you and your wife at the dinner?
Are you sure that you even want to go to Easter dinner with your family?
Have you been thrown together at family events with people you would not have anything to do with if they were not family?
At Easter there will be four men at my parents home. 1) My father who only says about five words to anyone a year. 2) Len, a sisters husband, who has no personality at all and will go down the basement and sit in a chair all alone; 3) Myself; and 4) Jeff. The woman are off in the kitchen in their girl talk talking about hairstyles, cooking, shoes and makeup.
I am a fish out of water counting down the hours until the event is over. Logically Jeff and I would bond and we could chat and make the whole thing easier to take. He is a high powered Attorney and gives me shade. He is too important to deal with the likes of me. So he just sits in the room and plays with his Smartphone. All attempts at conversation have not worked with Jeff.
Jeff: Please talk to me! If you were me would you keep trying? Or sit and play with my SmartPhone too. (If you can't beat them, join them.)
What year are you living in if you think women sit around talking about hair and makeup? 1955?
Before I say this, I realize this might be rude, but it IS your parents' home, so I don't understand why you can't be comfortable doing something that pleases you. Maybe shoot a few hoops or play on YOUR laptop or whatever, or even read a book. Or, as someone else suggested, talk to the women or even (gasp) offer to help cook or clean up.
Anyway, if it is that much of a pain, why can't you just stay for about three hours and then leave? Also, if you are married or have an SO, what does she think about going to your parents' home? If she enjoys it, fine, but if not, maybe you can make an excuse that involves her to take the heat off you.
I thought all the holidays were held at your house, and your obnoxious relatives kept you up all hours of the night.
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