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I didn't really say much. I just gave them back and privately expressed my annoyance to my husband. We won't be raising our kids to do that, that's for sure!
Why bring up the issue when you have already taken care of it?
Wow. That's pretty gutsy. Maybe you should send her some of your bras and underpants, too, in case she has holes in hers and she needs them. ha!
I can't imagine demanding earrings back that were given as a gift. I'd be like, "Harumph!" Does she have a history of giving things and then wanting them back? If this isn't an ongoing problem, I think what you did was correct and makes you seem much more gracious than she... and I'm glad your husband is on "your side!"
I'm going to buck the trend and say I would have mortified the crap out of her. I'd have said, "Wait, you're asking to take back a GIFT?"
If she said yes, I'd have said, "Sorry, but no. If it was a vase or something, whatever. But I've worn these. What you're asking is like asking for someone to give back a toothbrush or some underwear after they've used it. It's unhygienic."
It would be pretty hard for the OP to say it's unhygienic since they originally belonged to the MIL and then the OP wore them after the MIL.
And even if it were a concern, earrings can be cleaned.
I probably would have returned them and thanked her for sharing them with me. But that's just me. I would never have insisted my late hubs take sides with me against his own Mother. Again, just me.
I have a feeling that the earrings in question are only a small part of a larger issue.
Very strange. I agree there is more going on and the earrings are just a symptom of the real issue. I think you did the right thing. Pick your battles. Her trying to invade on parenting or relationship issues would be a big deal and I would say stand your ground, but demanding back an item, however rude it is, is not worth fighting over. Either way she sounds about as special as my MIL .
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