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Old 04-24-2015, 11:07 AM
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I have had few people ask if I am pregnant when I packed on the pounds last year. I didn't bother me. However, I asked this other lady if she was pregnant at work and she said no. I said sorry she said not to worry about it and other people have asked her as well.

So would you be offended if someone asked you if you are pregnant when you just gained weight?
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Old 04-24-2015, 11:12 AM
Location: CA
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I'm surprised you two weren't upset by it, because commenting on people's weight is usually inappropriate. Just wait, other CDers are going to let you know just what they think about it.
I've never asked anyone and it's never been asked of me. Yes, I'd be annoyed because I exercise and watch what I eat, so I look thin and in shape (in my mind). Lol
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Old 04-24-2015, 12:51 PM
Location: Northern Virginia
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I've been asked that twice.

One was a distant relative I hadn't seen in many, many years. When I said "No", she was totally red faced and flustered she said "You're sure?"

Uh, yeah. I'm sure. To top it off, this happened at my grandmother's memorial service.

I was not offended but it was awkward both times. And clearly something I've never forgotten.

Rule of thumb: Never, ever ask a woman if she's pregnant unless you know she's pregnant.
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Old 04-24-2015, 12:54 PM
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Yeah, I think I'd be hurt and offended if someone asked me if I was pregnant. It's like saying "Hey, you're fat!" I'd probably become very self-conscious about my stomach, thinking "Oh my god, how could they think I was pregnant?" When I was younger and had less self-confidence, this might launch me into weeks of starving myself and doing sit-ups furiously.

I would never ask a woman if she was pregnant, even if her abdomen is sticking out like a basketball. If she wants to tell me, she can tell me. If not, I'm not saying a word. For all I know she could have a huge tumor or she just puts on weight in a strange way.

It's kind of like when you are in junior high or high school and you slow dance with a boy. You never say "hey, what's that?" You just keep your mouth shut and pretend you don't feel it.
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Old 04-24-2015, 12:56 PM
Location: Arizona
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I never ever ask a woman about her pregnancy status, even if it appears obvious. I have never had this happen to me either, but I don't even look pregnant when I am until the last like 3 months ha ha.
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Old 04-24-2015, 01:13 PM
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I've got a couple of coworkers who appear to be "with child". But apparently that weight in the middle is from too much time sitting behind a desk.
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Old 04-24-2015, 01:14 PM
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I can't believe people even ask this question, because it's such a personal thing. People who ask must be incredibly rude.
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Old 04-24-2015, 01:21 PM
Location: here
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Yes I'd be offended, and no I have never asked that because it is offensive and embarrassing if you are wrong.
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Old 04-24-2015, 02:04 PM
Location: Kansas
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Yes, I would be offended so I have the courtesy not to ask. Now, with the cashiers and others that I am very familiar with, when you can tell for sure they are pregnant, like the 8th or 9th month, I do ask "When is baby due?" They always smile and tell me. It used to be before this obesity craze that not so many people looks like they were pregnant.
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Old 04-24-2015, 02:15 PM
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Yes, much to my embarrassment
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