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Old 01-19-2008, 03:03 PM
 
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I would say this, be friends with Bill and Rolando, but don't give to them more than they give to you. In other words, don't be a patsy and let them use you. A good healthy friendship is balanced. You give, stop and then let them give back to you. If they never give back to you, then stop putting yourself out to them and letting yourself be taken advantage of. Friends are not charity cases. Charity cases should only be viewed as charity cases and not mistaken for being your friends.
There has been times I've felt that Rolando has taken advantage of me and he felt that I'm easy to give in to what he wants and sometimes I get afraid of getting into an argument or a sour disagreement cause I don't deal with friction and confrontation very well, when it gets to a point to where Rolando is overdoing it by taking advantage of me or when he gets persuasive and persistant I would definitely tell him how I feel and have him understand that I won't tolerate that kind of behavior, Rolando is starting to be more giving than he used to be which is a good thing, I definitely agree with you that friends are not charity cases.

Another close (online) friend of mine has told me that she feels that I tend to think too much about others and not enough about myself and I definitely agree with her on that.
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Old 01-19-2008, 04:17 PM
 
Location: Naptowne, Alaska
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And keep in mind you will always have friends on the left...and friends on the right...and those two seperate groups may never interact. You will be like a middleman. It's perfectly natural and gives you some diversity.

And I guess I missed the part about Bill being a woman beater. If he does that again kick his arse clean into next week.
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Old 01-19-2008, 06:48 PM
 
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Default So my question is...

Are you in love with Rolando? This sounds like the beginning of a love-triangle.



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I do feel that both Rolando and Bill are meant to be friends and they do have alot in common, I have never really liked Bill growing up and I shouldn't let the turmoils and situations he has gone through get the better of me cause the past is the past! I also believe that Bill is trying to get his act together and that him being friends with Rolando is one of the greatest moments of his life, I do feel that I was trying to manipulate people into being friends with them so I can be friends with them, I used to think that Megan was my ticket to having alot of friends and I now realized that me having the same amount of friends as Megan isn't really in the cards.

As for Rolando I do like him and he is a really nice guy, there are some things I like to see him work on like for him to stop being persistant and persuasive towards people and I do feel that Rolando really thinks highly of me and I want Rolando to have nothing but the best, there are times when I feel that I do care too much about Rolando and I sometimes worry about him whenever he is hurting or going through hard times.

Anyways I wanna apologize for the way I've acted this evening towards me wanting Rolando to be friends with Megan, I was in a really bad mood this evening and I've just vented it all out, I used to think that if I was good friends with Megan I could live the easy life and be surrounded by alot of friends.
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Old 01-19-2008, 07:03 PM
 
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Are you in love with Rolando? This sounds like the beginning of a love-triangle.
I am not in love with Rolando, I'm a male and I sometimes get overly concerned about Rolando and his overly persistant and persuasive attitude.
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Old 01-19-2008, 07:07 PM
 
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And keep in mind you will always have friends on the left...and friends on the right...and those two seperate groups may never interact. You will be like a middleman. It's perfectly natural and gives you some diversity.

And I guess I missed the part about Bill being a woman beater. If he does that again kick his arse clean into next week.
I definitely agree with you that I will always have friends on the left and friends on the right and that those two seperate groups may never interact.

I like having a diversity of friends, I know that Bill has had a really rough past and I do feel that he is trying to get his life together, I really do admire Rolando for wanting to be great friends with Bill, Rolando has told me that Bill thinks really highly of me and he feels that we would be great friends.
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Old 01-19-2008, 10:21 PM
 
Location: Ocean Shores, WA
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...I'm a male...
Well that's certainly a surprise, at least to me.
I'll have to go back and study your posts, because the thought never entered my mind that you might be male.

I think I need to examine my basic set of assumptions.
Evidently I am not as free from sexual stereotyping and gender bias as I thought I was.
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