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Do girls have to eventually turn into their mother? More than anything I didn't want to and I'm hoping I haven't. We had similar body types, but didn't look like each other. My mothers died in 2000 and I still miss her, but I don't want to become her. She was the dominate parent and the disciplinarian, at least for me. I suppose my dad was for my two brothers. Although my dad did try to spank me once when I was about 10, but it was only one swat. I'd put a book in my panties and when his hand hit that book he started laughing and that was the end of the spanking.... just as I'd planned. If anything happened to distract mother, she became more angry. In her nineties, she remarked about being a very private person which reminded me of the many ways I didn't really know her.
When my daughter was growing up, we weren't best friends, but as she matured and became an adult, we were very good friends and still are. However, I'm sure she doesn't want to become me as she gets older. We also don't resemble each other. Guided by my mother's revelation I made an effort not to be a very private person to my daughter and son.
Do you think you're turning into your mother? I'm thinking it's something one doesn't think about until at least middle age.
Given how my mother was, I'm doing everything I can to avoid becoming her. How my daughter feels about one day becoming me---I don't know (do I really want to even know?).
Would be so nice if I could ditto Matties post. Who could wish for more.
I don't think I'm like my mother.... She believed anything a man said were bible and voiced it in many ways, this were drilled in her head growing up. Chose Dad for his passive qualities, preventing him from co-parenting. Were always the voice of authority, sent a lot of mixed messages. Everything about her reeked of hypocrisy and superficiality.
Do girls eventually HAVE to turn into their mothers? No! I'm not at all like my mother, who has proven herself time and again that she's is capable of supreme selfishness, alienating her children and grandchildren, gratuitous gossip, and some of the most cruel words I've ever heard from an adult. She chose her path, but I declined to follow.
Mother never wore her wedding rings and when I was 13, she gave me her engagement ring and a fur coat. She said, "those are things a girl wants from a man, but I'm giving them to you so you won't need them from anyone else."
I hated that coat. It was probably rabbit, although I really don't know. I wouldn't have liked it had it been chinchilla or sable. None of it detered me from my interest in boys. lol
I wouldn't mind turning into the best parts of my mother but leaving the rest behind. Ha! Hoping that's possible.
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