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Why waste time and money having her "legally evicted". I'm with Miss Hepburn on this...surely you can handle your own sister?..listen to convextech
Take the bull by the horns and leave the bureaucracy out of it..It'll only make things worse if you go that route, not easier or better.
Sometimes you gotta do things you don't relish...why put that on strangers, she's YOUR sister, YOU need to take control, and do what needs doing.(even if it's gonna hurt your sensibilities.
I would look up the eviction procedures in your state just so I had all my ducks in a row. Then, I wouldn't waste any time getting started and giving her notice. I think it is pretty clear that your sister has no intention of doing anything to better herself as long as she has others to fall back on. What a frustrating situation.
I think you've been generous enough. I didn't like my MIL living with us 2 days per week and she was doing that specifically so she could get to her job. Freeloaders have no shame.
That's a pretty drastic thing to do...easier said than done, unless you're single and not in your own home.
Why should OP disrupt his whole life for something that really IS a simple fix. He just needs to put his immediate family first. If his sis has problems with that he shouldn't make those his.
One of my sisters is an long term unemployed and she has been moving from one relative to anther while she waits out the recession.
I have news for you (and her): This is not a 'recession' anymore. It is deepening into a depression. You don't want to 'wait it out'. Tell her to take a job -- any job -- even if it's not in her field. Time to man up, bro. This isn't going away anytime soon. What will she do, when it has affected all the rest of her family, and there's no one left to sponge off of? I fear that it's going to come to that. No good news anywhere.
Not long ago I had a heads up from another relative that one of my cousins is doing this. If he shows up here, I will buy him a meal and a tank of gas, and send him on his way. I won't let him in the house.
Not long ago I had a heads up from another relative that one of my cousins is doing this. If he shows up here, I will buy him a meal and a tank of gas, and send him on his way. I won't let him in the house.
I like your relative that called you.
Tank of gas, a meal....at least he had a car.
I doubt you would need to give notice if she's not paying any rent (I'm assuming?).
This is exactly why I told my husband under no circumstances is his brother invited to stay with us if his girlfriend ever breaks it off. He is living with her and has always been a deadbeat. He is lazy with no ambition. If she dumped him & he came here to stay, I KNOW he would never leave. We are both praying she never dumps him.
I like your relative that called you.
Tank of gas, a meal....at least he had a car.
He won't get here otherwise. There's no bus and I'm not exactly in the middle of the city. It would take too much effort for anyone in that family to walk out here.
That was another selling point for moving to Iowa. It's a good 12 hours away by car from them.
Listen to your wife. It is a very reasonable solution. I bet she finds some sort of job within a week or two if you go through with it. It is probably cheaper to get her to leave voluntarily than go through legal eviction.
Change the locks, secure your windows and do not let her back in.
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