social ostracism... is there a remedy or too late?

[Murk]

Originally Posted by tabloo

I joined a group of 60 adults

It was organized to be an intimate group of lifelong peers

There was a group of 60 people who were all supposed to become lifelong friends?

This sounds insane to me! How is that supposed to work?

You can't honestly expect to connect as friends with 60 people right off the bat... or at all.

[Lilac110]

Originally Posted by tabloo

I joined a group of 60 adults (most between age 28-40)

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was organized to be an intimate group of lifelong peers...

That right there is a contradiction in terms. As social as humans can be, the notion of intimacy precludes the inclusion of 60 people.

Whatever kind of group it was, it sounds contrived, even a little bit creepy. In your shoes, I might very well be glad I don't fit in with such odd, small-minded people.

[fluffythewondercat]

You wouldn't worry about what other people think of you if you realized how seldom they do.

I'd avoid social media and move on with my life.

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In my thirties I entered into a professional field populated almost exclusively (99.9%) by men. This had both advantages and drawbacks. The advantage was that there were men in management who wanted to see more intelligent women working in the field, so I usually got jobs.

The disadvantage was that when I went to trade shows and seminars, I was utterly alone. No one would talk to me. I wasn't attractive enough to hit on and being female, they assumed I wasn't one of them. Talk about ostracized.