Strangers who like to talk (wife, husband, issues, feel)
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I strongly believe I attract people who like to talk. It's been that way since I was a teen. Random people (usually other women) start telling me details of their lives. I pretend to be interested by saying, "Oh, that's nice!" or "I'm sorry to hear that!". In actuality, I don't care.
I was sitting in my car waiting for my take-out order and this lady parks next to me. She then tries to get my attention by waving her arms around. I roll down my window to see what she wants and she starts telling me about her parents and in-laws who are in assisted living facilities and how they have dementia and blah, blah, blah... This happens regularly.
Does anyone else have stories of when strangers share details of their lives?
LOL. Yes this happens to me all the time. I was in Walmart last week and an older guy came up and started talking. First about raccoons and garbage (I was buying a garbage toter). But then he progressed into how his grandson just graduated and was having trouble finding a job, his daughter who lives with him, where he and wife used to live in the Midwest, etc. I didn't really mind because it was my day off and I wasn't in a huge hurry. Finally his daughter showed up and hauled him away. But, yep, happens to me a lot. With me, it's older folks of either gender.
Holy crap, YES. I get this all the time, too. I was in the book section of a store and a woman came up next to me and started talking about this cookbook... and then started telling me about her health issues. It got to the point where she was describing how many bowel movements she had a day when my husband walked up. He heard a snippet of this and kind of looked at me like, "Whaaaaat's happening?" I just have one of those faces that makes people want to share things. Apparently you, Pinkmani, and Fiona13 also do! Lucky us!
I don't mind it usually since I realize a lot of folks are just kind of lonely and need someone to connect with. Sometimes I'm a crabass, though, and don't feel like taking on others' problems. (Usually my face shows this, though, I've been told! Open book.)
How can you take on other's problems when it is a brief chat in a bookstore or the market?
It isn't like you exchange numbers and become best friends instantly, once you leave they are gone as well.
I get talked to all the time and I spend a couple minutes then tell them it was nice chatting with them and get back to the task at hand and my day.
Occasionally...and much more than I care to know about a complete strangers life; like the time I'm on the make up isle in the CVS, a well dressed professional looking gentleman asked me what depilatories are best for his legs and how he started cross dressing in his moms clothes at a younger age.
This occasionally happens to me while out shopping -- but not near as often as it seems to affect the other posters
I think if I was one of those very approachable or compassionate looking people for whom this is a frequent problem, I'd make up a list of counseling resources in the area and keep it handy to give out to people.
Oftentimes referring someone to professional counseling instead of dealing awkwardly with their outlandish problems is both the compassionate and effective thing to do for them
How can you take on other's problems when it is a brief chat in a bookstore or the market?
It isn't like you exchange numbers and become best friends instantly, once you leave they are gone as well.
I get talked to all the time and I spend a couple minutes then tell them it was nice chatting with them and get back to the task at hand and my day.
Well, I didn't mean that I offer to fix their life or anything. I have chronic pain issues and sometimes just standing there, listening, is a bit much. But I don't believe in being rude just because I'm having a bad day. For instance, this past week I had such pain that I could hardly breathe. Just getting through a day was a struggle. So if someone wanted to stand next to me and tell me their life history, it would have been taking on their problems, in a manner of speaking. In that case, I might be less inclined to chat. But any other time, I'm just fine with it. I like it.
I strongly believe I attract people who like to talk. It's been that way since I was a teen. Random people (usually other women) start telling me details of their lives. I pretend to be interested by saying, "Oh, that's nice!" or "I'm sorry to hear that!". In actuality, I don't care.
I was sitting in my car waiting for my take-out order and this lady parks next to me. She then tries to get my attention by waving her arms around. I roll down my window to see what she wants and she starts telling me about her parents and in-laws who are in assisted living facilities and how they have dementia and blah, blah, blah... This happens regularly.
Does anyone else have stories of when strangers share details of their lives?
Happens to me also. I have a kind, soft, approachable face and expression. Lures them in like flies when you least expect it. One moment you are concentrating intently on which brand of hot sauce to buy, and 5 minutes later you realize the stranger next to you just walked up and told you their entire life story, and you think to yourself "how did this happen?" Lol I suppose we have an energy that attracts people and makes us more approachable.
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