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Go about your business. Treat them no different than a male co-worker.
Public places are no different. Times have changed. It's not only women but people are not as friendly as they used to be. Over 90% of people I pass by on a popular walking trail I walk on will ignore even a friendly "hello." For the most part I do not bother anymore.
I called a co worker up one time to ask a question, work related and she started accusing of stalking. so if i dont have ant dealing with you with other people in the room, Im not even looking your way.
I would hope the call went something like this: "Hi, it's brownbagg from work. Look, I'm really sorry to call you at home, but if I don't turn in this report first thing tomorrow morning, the Boss will have my head. I had a question, and you're the only one I could think of who might know the answer."
Because otherwise, if you're calling about something that could wait until you're both back in the office the next day, then yeah, it would seem a bit "off" to me.
Just thought of asking this. When at office or other public places, is it OK to look at women when you walk past them? Almost all of them smile when I look at them either in a walkway or elevator or car park or anywhere within the office.
Is it an acceptable thing to do , or just walk by without noticing them? I see many men go past without noticing, so just wanted to know how acceptable it is.
Here its not just Ok but common to node your head or even say HI. Morning ;afternoon is also ok. Why such avoidance I will never understand. Seems society is getting less social; your not asking them out or to marry you after all. A smile never hurt anything.
Its disappointing to see so many rude replies( including mine , when poked). Many people complain about Immigrants not assimilating into the American way of life. But when asked about a genuine behavioral trait, I get abused. One mod told me my posts were helpful and pleasant, but it will no longer be. I will end at 368 .
Its disappointing to see so many rude replies( including mine , when poked). Many people complain about Immigrants not assimilating into the American way of life. But when asked about a genuine behavioral trait, I get abused. One mod told me my posts were helpful and pleasant, but it will no longer be. I will end at 368 .
It would have helped us answer you if you had explained that you were from a different country or culture when you first posted.
Its disappointing to see so many rude replies( including mine , when poked). Many people complain about Immigrants not assimilating into the American way of life. But when asked about a genuine behavioral trait, I get abused. One mod told me my posts were helpful and pleasant, but it will no longer be. I will end at 368 .
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Originally Posted by Kibbiekat
It would have helped us answer you if you had explained that you were from a different country or culture when you first posted.
Agreed, that would have made a tremendous difference. Americans who grew up in this country are used to the little ins and outs of dealing with the thousands of teeny-tiny little things that make up one's daily life, just like I'm sure the OP would have known the custom in his country of origin. But oftentimes, it's the little things that we take for granted that can trip up someone who's not used to them, simply because they're so second-nature to us that we can't understand how anyone doesn't understand.
OP, I hope you didn't take any of my comments to you as rudeness. I certainly did not intend any to be that way. And I hope you won't give up on this forum, as I do believe that it contains a lot of helpful information. But when asking a question about something that we would consider minor and second-nature, it's definitely to your advantage to explain up front why you don't already know the answer.
As they approach, make eye contact and smile warmly. After they pass, don't turn your head to check out their butts. That would be considered crass in a professional setting.
Unless they are dressed inappropriately in tight or revealing clothing. Also crass and unprofessional.
It's a safe bet that they are aware of how their clothing fits since they purchased them and dressed themselves instead of me.
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