Does Anyone REALLY Enjoy Having Houseguests?? (wife, presents, present, brother)
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Thanks for all our responses! They were very thought-provoking.The results were:
The "introverted, selfish people" who don't like overnighters: 42%
The "shmoos" who love overnighters: 35%
The "expansionists " who are building or have built outbuildings, casitas or trailers to house guests:9%
The miscellaneous commenters:11%
Ironically , the guest who started all this decided to leave a day/night earlier than planned when she realized what a long drive she would have so I got my living room and bath back AND she doesn't think she'll make the trip again because of the distance! (We'll probably meet in SF.) Everyone else stays at a B&B so the problem is eliminated. THANKS ALL!
I don't after my last experience and honestly don't look forward to having any in the future. I was going crazy trying to get my house and food ready for about 15 people for Thanksgiving dinner. My sister calls me and tells me that my brother, his wife, his toddler son and his mother-in-law were coming from China and they didn't even ask me! He told my sis they were going to stay at my house! I had 2 usable bedrooms, which hadn't been prepared for guests since I found this out the day before Thanksgiving. I ran out to buy new linens and try to clean the best I could. My son's room wasn't "good enough" for the MIL, so all 4 of them slept in my room and they almost left at midnight over me not having a room for her to sleep in.
I'll never allow someone to invite themselves to my house again or at least without a month notice. I'm not a Suzy Homemaker type and only thoroughly clean the rooms that will be used. He's a brother that picks and chooses when he wants to be a part of the family, so he can go pound salt the next time he plans a visit to the US.
All the time is stressful but once in a while can be pretty fun. It would suck if no one ever came over. I see the same way as going out and hanging out with someone. All the time would be too much, but in moderation is pretty fun. Try being social people, you only have one life for Christ's sake. Then you will be forever alone in death!
I enjoy house guests.. but understand those who do not. Some folks can only be tolerated for a few hours at a time, much less overnight.
Years ago i spent many nights at a dear friends home in Northern, Ohio.. almost every time i was in town. I have been able to repay their hospitality a few times over the years and look forward to many more.
When my daughter was younger ( from birth to about highschool, my inlaws would come and stay for 2 weeks, two times a year. We do have a big house 4br, 3br, and 3 living areas. They would try to help as much as they could with cooking, cleaning, pruning, and did help in buying groceries. I do understand that they wanted to be around my daughter and see her grow up . However, the 2 weeks was a bit much, IMHO. As I said, while they were helpful, I really felt our privacy was compromised. I like to go around the house without much clothes and do what I want to do rather than having to compromise with them. Anyway, they are both gone now and I suppose for my daughter's sake, it was worth it. I am just glad that those days are over.
Tell your friend you expect a bed-bug-remover's visit in a couple of days after her arrival. She'll find a place to stay.
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