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My co-worker REALLY loves having people around. She's single and she truly enjoys having people over. She even signed up as a couch surfer host. That's how much she enjoys having people over.
How about you say, "My place isn't available for anyone at the moment due to things I'm working on. Let me help you find the best hotel to stay at while you're here."
Or better yet, look for the hotels for her, give them option A, B, and C (at most), present it and say, "I can't have guests staying over at my place right now, so I looked at hotels for you were you can stay at..." If she ask why not, they're cool with everything, just say "It's not available." and continue the conversation about the hotel and ask, "Which one do you find more appealing for you?"
That's as blatant as I can think of without just being all out, "I don't want you in my place."
When she visits again, say the same line. She'll eventually get the hint.
I don't generally mind houseguests of a week or less but I'm just a complete no on couch surfing. If I don't have a bed and a door that they can close, it won't happen. Late sleepers or early-to-bedders hold up the household with everyone tiptoeing around and their stuff just lies about. I don't mind sharing the bath as much as long as it's not too many people.
I love having friends stay even though I live in a small cabin and have an outhouse hahahha. This thread cracks me up. Wait until all your friends and family live 4000 miles away. Then you would be happy to spend every single, possible moment with them. And luckily enough, the ones who have managed to come all the way here, are adventurous enough to stay here.
I don't like houseguests at all. Ours is a small house and, while we have a spare room, we have only one bathroom. I guess I don't like having guests around me every minute, as I am really not a people person. My husband's different - he don't mind it; in fact, I know that I'm too introverted for him (but he accepts it).
Surprisingly, though, I do not find anything wrong with people inviting themselves as long as it's presented as a question and not an established plan. I do not appreciate someone calling to tell me that they'll show up on such-n-such date with airfare already bought (my brother did this a few years ago). Instead, work with me so that it doesn't intrude on plans of my own. Self-invitations is better than showing up at my door unannounced - and THAT would cause a riff.
I am not one of those people, despite having 4700 sq ft and 5 bathrooms. There's just something about always having to be "on" that bugs me. So now all the bedrooms are something - master, kids' rooms, playroom, and gym. Despite that, we have in-laws crashing on our couch quite often. Family doesn't bother me as much.
I only enjoy being a guest if I can have some if my own space.
I live in a typical 3/2 house and one of the bedrooms is used as an office. I used to use one of the BRs as a guest room but since I've retired I'm renting the extra room and bath and I really enjoy the extra income. The last few times I've had visitors they just got a B&B and we had a lovely visit. The friend who's coming this weekend has more money than God but wants to sleep on my sofa. I HATE people sleeping in my living room, there's no way to hide the mess, plus I don't like sharing a bathroom. Is there any clever witty way to tell her she should get a hotel from now on?? Or am I just becoming an old grump? Your input very much appreciated.
This person is coming this weekend and already has the ok from you to stay with them, so it is a little late to ask them to pay for a hotel or B&B now. For the next visit, you could suggest the B&B down the road, and explain that you've had your other visitors stay there and rave about how great it is.
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