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Our family takes commitment seriously. Parents and in-laws both married fifty-plus years. All four sets of grandparents married fifty-plus years. My siblings and his aunt/uncles all divorce-free, too.
There are generational aspects as well. I am 53 my parents and all of their closest friends where til death did they part. However both sets of my grandparents split up in an era where we think the family was more stable in the 40s and 50s. Almost all of the children of my parents close friends and cousins have had a single mate although some of us have married the divorced or single parents. So far the next generation with the eldest nearing 30 has seen multiple partners as the rule rather than the exception. Besides my grandparents and a father law having a mistress on the side this pattern is holding both with the Black side in America and the Philippines wing of my family.
It almost got to a point of divorce a month back due to financial burdens, but for some reason they didn't pull through with it. I'm not sure why though. I wish they would just go through with it before the next major fight, considering me and my brother are grown up (no child support). I don't know when & why the next fight is going to happen, hence my status.
It making me a bit scared to get married myself down the line. I'm increasingly having thoughts to remain single life long. The fights are becoming more and more emotionally draining and I don't want to go through the same at any point in life.
My parents just hit 50 years of marriage this month. I think the example they set for me has helped get me to 21 years of marriage as of this past May.
Divorced. Not the greatest childhood, but I did have lots of material things. I raised myself. No one in my family or me either, for that matter, seem to be able to stay in a relationship. Life in a revolving door has its up and downs. But, it is never boring.
I hate the way my mom talks to my dad and I hate that my dad doesn't communicate with my mom (or anyone else for that matter).
Example: He bought a 2015 planner for me and left it on the kitchen counter. He never told me or anyone else that it was for me. A week later he says to me, "So, when were you going to tell me you don't like want the planner I bought for you?".
i was looking for a third category "not divorced but should have been"
my mother thought she was doing the right thing by staying married "for the kids sake" but it is not healthy to subject children to a home filled with rage and terror and abuse. she did the best she could, i don't fault her for her decision, i just know from counseling and therapy and raising my own children, and yes breaking the family pattern when I found myself in a toxic marriage with three small children i got myself to professional help and got a divorce...that when someone is sick they need to get help, and children do far better living in a peaceful home with one parent, than in a toxic home filled with rage and violence and two parents. Also i did not want my kids to think this is what marriage looks like, i wanted them to have a chance at a more peaceful home themselves.
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