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Oh, and don't let the negative people on this thread get you down. There are some posters here who act high and mighty and who put down everyone, no matter what the post is about. It's totally understandable that you are upset and want to vent about your family. Some people act like it's so easy to permanently withdraw yourself from your family, but it's not that simple.
I let my family know that I am engaged and all I was asked was:
1. How many carats is the ring?
2. What race is he?
And then I was reminded was much my cousin's fiance spent on her ring ($20,000). I told them I would NEVER want my fiance to spend that kind of cash on a ring. He and I both agree we would like to take a nice honeymoon and enjoy ourselves rather than spend years digging out of debt. I love my ring and it is beautiful. It is also exactly what I wanted.
No one said that they were happy for me. No one asked about wedding details. Nothing. I am so disappointed.
This is why they aren't invited lol. Only his family and my friends are going. I will not even send them photos.
Well, obviously you haven't even introduced your family to your fiance, odd to say the least.
Hard to get excited about nuptials if you don't even know the groom.
My mother & sister are obsessed with diamonds, and they can never get big enough. Years ago before my sister & I got married, my mother told us that she wanted one of us to have my grandmother's engagement diamond. My sister quickly announced that it was too small for her, that she had to have a large diamond, and that I could 'have' it. I always felt like that was extremely shallow of her.
Oh well, my husband had it placed into a beautiful setting, and with my other grandmother's wedding ring diamonds set in my wedding band, the rings are sentimental and make a great story.
How ignorant of them to ask such questions. I am sorry for you.
Congratulations to you!
Surround yourself with friends and others who will be happy for you and express it in a positive way.
It's a shame that your family has some issues which prevent them from doing so.
Well, anyways, thanks for all your input. I was annoyed with them, but you guys are right, I really should not have expected anything positive from them.
And no, his race is not important. Just because I do not bring it up doesn't mean I am hiding it. It really is not the first thing I think of.
Have you considered that, since you never introduced him to the family nor ever showed them a photograph of you together, that they are trying to picture you together as a family? Hard to even imagine if they could be anywhere from Swedish to Australian Aborigine.
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