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We don't live near family so family get togethers are an event to be enjoyed. No TV - unless it's after a full day of activity and we're just winding down watching a movie or sporting event together. Catching up over a meal, lingering over dessert, maybe playing cards or sharing recollections...it's a really nice time.
Our grown children and young grandchildren still live in RI, but since retirement, we now live in rural Maine. We are off-grid, and don't have a TV. Both daughters and their families are here now for the 4th of July clam boil that we put on each year. Wife and I are very happy to see them all, and have them here. This year, we also have some of my brother's kids.
Family get-togethers are what you make them. Earlier today, I was out fishing with a few of my grandkids. We make sure we have plenty of interesting food, horse shoes and baseball for them to play. We raise poultry and a garden, and the kids love to see the birds and help pick whatever is ripe - strawberries! There's no boredom, just something different to do. I have an outdoor kitchen, and grill up everything from morning pancakes to burgers for supper.
We all have a good time with it. Wishing everybody here a Happy 4th!
I love it, until it happens... then I'm ready for it to be over. I love my family, but I really like boundaries, which seem to disappear when everybody is crammed into one house.
Not really, though I don't really detest it either. I only see my extended family about 2-3 times a year (Xmas, Thanksgiving, sometimes New Years) so it's not that bad. I kind of laughed at your mentioning of you being black though. Do you think watching a crappy movie while eating is specific to when black families get together, haha?
its really starting to annoy me. im black and they're definition of family time is sitting in front of a TV and watching a crappy movie and eating. Not fun at all
Your holidays sound exactly like my families. No one seems like they want to be there. I don't want them there either. It is not rude, it is just how it is. I moved to California for college and never left. I have no family here! Sounds good, right? The bad part is, everyone wants to come and visit and they want to stay with me. Eat my food, stay up until all hours of the night. They want to go to Disney Land, Magic Mountain, the Beach, Hollywood, the Zoo in San Diego, SeaWorld and Lego Land. Drive, drive, drive. I have been to these places more times than I can count. I do not want to go there anymore. I don't want to shuttle family all around the state. I am just tired. This year, I am not having anyone over for the 4rth. If you live in So Cal, this weekend in the one from hell. It is going to be very hot. Traffic that you cannot begin to imagine. No parking anywhere you go.
So, to answer your question: No! I do not like to spend the holidays with my family. Your family sounds ideal. Have some food, watch a crappy movie and say good-bye! Want to trade?
I don't. But I am more introvert, and have social anxiety/shyness on top of it, so I don't care for any kind of large gathering. A smaller group of no more than 6 people, sure.
So family reunions, I don't care for, especially when I am not close with anyone in my family. I actually hate when my grandfather visits, because he likes to tease and clown around with me like I am 4. And it's annoying really. He came to visit last month, and he'll be back in Sept. once a year is enough lol But when he comes next time, I may break down and tell him how I feel.
So no. I am working to move out of this town however. So then I won't have to see my family. Hard to escape relatives in a small rural town where everyone knows you and where you live. Once I move, my parents will probably be the only family I stay in contact with.
Last edited by HappyRain; 07-04-2015 at 03:59 AM..
Yes. My sister and I are not close with my extended family, and this dates back to when I was a little kids, when our mom did some horrible things to alienate all of them. So we don't hang out and I'm rather glad for that. If they are holding a grudge against my sister and I for something my mom did 30+ years ago, why would we want to be with them? Our mother passed away 12 years ago, and my father doesn't want to have anything to do with me, for reasons I know not what. So it's my sister and I, and we are thick as thieves. I love spending time with her. I also hang out with my wife's family, and although I don't care for her brother as much, spending time with them is OK too.
I wish all my family did was eat and watch a dumb movie. Mine get snarky and mean (in a vile way) so in answer to your question, "Heck no!!"
Trust me: If they're pleasant just hang with them and enjoy. One day they won't be there.
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