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I know I wasn't. My sisters were 16 and 14 when I was born. The parents were just about to get their freedom back and, boom, I came along. When my mom found out she was pregnant, she threatened to walk into the ocean until her hair floated. I knew from a very young age that I wasn't wanted. And I was a good kid, learned to read early and all they had to do was give me a book and they didn't hear from me for hours. I didn't date until my senior year and didn't come home pregnant or get arrested.
My dad was an alcoholic so grew up with the accompanying fights, screaming, throwing things, him leaving, begging him to come back, and miracle of miracles, the day I left home for the last time at 16 (skipped a grade, graduated at 16), he quit drinking and never touched a drop afterwards. Kind of tells you something, doesn't it?
My parents marriage has always been a tragedy since the beginning and I believe my mother would have been able to divorce him sooner had I not been born (they're still married).
Apparently they were going through a very rough spot when I was born and my sperm donor wanted my mother to have an abortion. She has always been very loving towards me and took good care of me but I still feel she could have had a better life if she didn«t get pregnant with me.
Im sorry you feel this way.... I also feel like you do!!
I was a MISTAKE.... Me and my mom havent ever really gotton along... She said they wanted her to have an abortion @ the time...
WHY DIDNT SHE? -- Why subject me to this place that since the 80s has become trash and keeps getting worse?? (Sorry I am not in a good mood -- Ill end my reply now)
My mother was open about it most of my life, and now she is upset that we're not close. She had my sister when she was eighteen, and she didn't want another baby when she was so young. She had a one night stand with my father and ended up pregnant with me. She hated my father and she didn't want to marry him, but she felt she had to. So she married him and then when I was six, he killed himself. So most of my life she has taken it out on me. She even used to tell me that she hates that I turned out looking like him. She told me I am too much of a reminder of him.
Two years ago when I had to have surgery she confessed that she always felt resentment for me, but she was sorry. Now she tells me she wants us to be closer, but I just haven't wanted that in years. I wanted it in when I was a kid, but as an adult I just feel resentment for her. I remember her doing things for my sister, but never me. If my sister did something wrong it was "Well kids will be kids." If I did something wrong it was because I was selfish and just like my father.
About nine years ago I moved from my old town to the city I am in now. When I moved she told me it was because I was such a selfish and inconsiderate person, and I really was just like my father. I moved because there was nothing there for me in my old town. There were no jobs. There was a job out here for me though, and I am still working at it to this day.
It's not so bad since she confessed. I think she really does regret it, and I should visit her more, but I still have resentment from my childhood. I hated that she took something out of me that wasn't my fault.
I was loved by a sister and other relatives...so there was an ok balance, I think.
I turned ok; stronger, very independent, knowing others will not satisfy me ultimately,
don't rely on anyone...not a bad thing, kinda realistic,
find my own happiness sort of thing...
I'm very into God....as my loving Father/Parent.
I failed to keep my parents together and dad left when I was six months. My older brother & twin sister always held it against me. Looking back so did mom.
It doesn't matter, I was born, I'm here and no one can change that. My childhood was awful. It's over! I can do as I wish. I have nothing to do with them and I am happy!
No one needs to justify their being, the fact that you says it all! And the best revenge is success! Embrace your life and grow beyond the "pot" someone planted you in.
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