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Old 07-07-2015, 12:27 PM
 
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Have you been shunned from your family for years and decided not to go back?

Have you moved on easily, or has the trauma changed you?
Do you think about it quite a bit?
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Old 07-07-2015, 12:31 PM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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A black sheep is just different, not shunned and often not even traumatized.
It is my younger brother in my family, and he is proud to be different!
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Old 07-07-2015, 12:39 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
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I used to be the black sheep but I grew up and have become the "good one" after all.

In between, I rarely spoke to my parents for about 10 years and did everything possible to p$ss them off, like crazy hair cuts, partying and dating losers. We have moved on. Now I speak to my parents twice a week even though they live on the other side of the world.

I think about it quite a bit and I am still a bit traumatized from my childhood. But there comes a time in life where you you should stop blaming everything on your parents, you need to take responsibility for your actions and move on.
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Old 07-07-2015, 01:32 PM
 
Location: Jacksonville, FL
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I was the black sheep until I moved back around my family. Then I suddenly became the "golden child" until I realized that my family puts the "fun" into dysfunctional. I have since cut all communications with the majority of them, so yeah, I guess I'm the black sheep again. The difference this time around is that I took the role voluntarily, and my stress level since doing so is back to healthy territory.
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Old 07-07-2015, 01:43 PM
 
Location: Planet Earth
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I'm the bad kid--- but I never crashed the Audi, lied about it, and grew pot plants in my closet. Just who WAS the devil child????
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Old 07-07-2015, 02:13 PM
 
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Great post JimRom!

The majority of my family has followed the ring leader, the alfa dog, the barker, the star of the show.

I wouldn't take the bait. They are a haughty mean spirited tribe.

They are enamoured with themselves and they want nothing more
than for you to be.

I became "the lesson" to keep the others in line.
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Old 07-07-2015, 02:25 PM
 
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Black sheep by definition varies as to what it is. Most often in my experience its one who gets in constant problems of their own making.
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Old 07-07-2015, 02:46 PM
 
Location: Pérouges
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I was the one in my family as I moved to France from England when I was 18 (27yrs ago) and have since become French.

We were all born Rhodesian, my parents still are but my sister is now British. I could now be a half-shaved green and yellow stripped baboon for all they'd care, my wife and I gave them their only grandchild. It's amazing how that can change a parents perspective on things.....
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Old 07-07-2015, 03:00 PM
 
Location: Redwood City, CA
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If you're in a family where chronic failure gets you attention and support, being the black sheep can be a very good thing.
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Old 07-07-2015, 03:03 PM
 
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Black sheep: A person who causes shame or embarrassment because of deviation from the accepted standards of his or her group.

When I looked it up, there appears to be many versions and interpretations, which makes all of this far more interesting as I read the posts coming in.

My family loves to put themselves on a pedastal. They are braggarts and show offs.
I told them they ought to have a bit more humbleness.

"Humbleness is for losers" they said.

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