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My dad has been annoyed with me since I was born. I suppose now he thinks I'm a slacker, but he was even more annoyed with me when I was working 100 hours a week. My gut feeling is that if I spend time with my grandma, he will be annoyed because of the phenomena of "why do grandparents and grandkids get along? because they share a common enemy." However, maybe he needs my support regardless.
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My grandpa died yesterday and I had just booked a ticket to Germany the night before. I was going to hangout in Berlin for a while and ride my bike up to Copenhagen to visit my cousins, maybe jump over to London. All in all about 6 weeks. I haven't committed anything besides about $350 for a 1-way ticket. Now I feel a bit torn about going since I don't really have much purpose to being over there except to goof off, and maybe my dad and grandma would like me to be around for the rest of the summer (I live about 10 min away from them). OTOH my dad is usually annoyed by my presence otherwise, so maybe he'd rather me be on a different continent during the grieving process. Also, I am sort of sad and maybe I shouldn't be alone by myself in a different country at this time. What would you do?
Good luck with travelling on only a £350 ticket.
It isn't expensive to travel but it isn't cheap! I go on holdiay each year and a small two week holiday is £1,000+.
I am not sure they will let you in with a oneway ticket..
Since you said you are going to europe a week after the funeral I would go.. You aren't going to be able to do anything for them so..
It isn't expensive to travel but it isn't cheap! I go on holdiay each year and a small two week holiday is £1,000+.
I am not sure they will let you in with a oneway ticket..
Since you said you are going to europe a week after the funeral I would go.. You aren't going to be able to do anything for them so..
Well, it's pretty cheap. I stay with family in Copenhagen, and house sitting in Berlin. So housing costs are minimal. AFAIK coming into Schengen I may need to show proof of onward travel, or just sufficient funds to buy an onward ticket. Plus I've got plenty of money, so normal travel expenses are no big deal. I'm just a cheapskate.
My grandpa died yesterday and I had just booked a ticket to Germany the night before. I was going to hangout in Berlin for a while and ride my bike up to Copenhagen to visit my cousins, maybe jump over to London. All in all about 6 weeks. I haven't committed anything besides about $350 for a 1-way ticket. Now I feel a bit torn about going since I don't really have much purpose to being over there except to goof off, and maybe my dad and grandma would like me to be around for the rest of the summer (I live about 10 min away from them). OTOH my dad is usually annoyed by my presence otherwise, so maybe he'd rather me be on a different continent during the grieving process. Also, I am sort of sad and maybe I shouldn't be alone by myself in a different country at this time. What would you do?
I'd go. In my religion a wedding caravan has right of way over a funeral procession.
Oh, I should mention I do not leave for Europe until about a week after the funeral.
Go on your trip.
Fifteen years ago I had $200 worth of tickets to see Kiss. My mother died in New York. We went to the funeral, and then the next day we came back to DC and went to the concert because she would have slapped me upside my head if I didn't go after spending that kind of money. The only thing that didn't happen because of her death was that my ex-hub didn't propose to me after the concert like he had planned. He waited another month and a half--until we were on vacation, which we didn't cancel either.
Your grandfather is no longer here. Your grandmother has your father to help her. Life is for the living, so go live it.
Go on your trip. Grandpa is gone. It's your father's responsibility to help your grandmother with whatever paperwork, etc. needs to be taken care of now. You'll be back in six weeks, you're not going for all that long a time.
How old Re you? Do you still live at home? What was/isyour relationship like with your grandparents? And, what specifically would you be doing if you stayed?
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