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Only a very few people would even know of that sort of change in financial circumstances..... and those people would be benefiting from it as well..... The two or three animal rescues that I work most closely with would certainly be benefiting....
I am not a clothes horse, I don't wear jewelry, I could NOT care less about driving a fancy expensive car..... I DO love good food and to eat out often.... so THAT may provide a clue to everyone else.... that and the fact that my 37 year old, 1400 SF subdivision tract house would finally be remodeled from top to bottom.... and cleaned by a housekeeper twice a week!!
I think anyone who becomes rich and does not continue to have acquaintances and even friendships from all socioeconomic groups and backgrounds would only be hurting themselves.
I recently read that Thomas Jefferson would often go out of his way to talk with "simple tradesman" because he realized that people can learn something from almost everyone. From what I have read, though, I don't think his attitude was -- and still is -- all that uncommon among very educated and wealthy men.
I think rich people know who the moochers are ,
Sweet talk, brown nosers, yes men, step and fetch it, we're good buddies right?.
Through the years working for a few rich folk you have to appreciate their suspicion, no matter how strait you present your self.
Some want to have the red carpet treatment, but don't expect it to be reciprocated .
On the other hand there are those that appreciate being unrecognized, especially in public and do business like any one else.
Sometimes the kind of car or boat is a give away ,but don't count on it. Some folks have the fancy stuff and can't actually afford it. but use the illusion to get some where.
Rule of thumb , money easily gotten is easily lost.
When the money is gone, so is every one else.
Best no one knows, and kindnesses are done anonimiously.
Would I like to be rich ?
Not really I'd much rather have a wealthy friend that has an interest in things I invent and enable me to develop them. We can share the fun.
Chances are they are smarter with money than I , and I would be distracted with it. loose focus.
I wouldn't, I would rather be homeless or do that. I wouldn't really change my life at all actually except maybe spend more and donate more to charity. I really couldn't picture myself at a millionaires retreat or whatever.......
All I can say is when I am with a friend who is a lot poorer than I am, I usually buy the drinks or treat them to lunch. I don't buy them a house. But if I am making $45 K a year and they are struggling by on minimum wage, I am treating. And I'm a woman, it doesn't matter what sex they are. So that's just my philosophy. So my wealth is actually what most of you would call being a "little person" anyway. So I guess I'm just one of the little people helping out my fellow little people.
And to the person who wrote that being a giving person isn't a virtue, yeah, whatever.
We are here on this planet to take care of each other. If you are fortunate enough to have it better than other people, you should be giving back because no one makes it on their own.
I'm with you, sister.
And I am friends with some seriously wealthy people. As well as dirt poor ones. I don't expect anyone to pay for me, unless they insist on going someplace I cannot afford, knowingly, and still want me there.
In that case, my friends offer.
And I have friends I always offer to pay for, because I know their situations and I can afford to. They don't ask, EVER, but I always offer.
Common sense, not ego. If you love your friends, it's give and take in all areas, otherwise, find new friends.
I pick my friends based on their hearts and intentions-- my friends in both camps are very generous, be it with time, money, affection, support..and that's what counts. Their attitude towards life.
So the answer for me, personally, is that a change in finance wouldn't cause me to ditch my friends who do t have big bucks.
You're probably wealthy compared to a lot of people. How many restaurant tabs do you pick up for them?
If you make $35,000 a year and they work part time at Walmart are you paying their way?
I ALWAYS take out my elderly uncle's family and pay for the whole dinner, for example, knowing I make much more than them. I never even let them split the bill or even pay for the tip. But with my friends who make about the same amount we alternate paying or split the bill. Anyone I know who is much less fortunate, I treat them out.
She said she does it and supports the philosophy of whoever has more pays or they are in the wrong.
That is different from picking up the tab now and then between friends.
This is her post:
If I'm hanging out with a truly wealthy person and they expect me to go halves with me on a big restaurant bill I would think they are nasty.
Uh, that is not the same post I had quoted and referred to. Check my post.
I know a handful of people who have done well for themselves, and whether young or old, are worth at least a couple million. All of those people seemed to stop talking with their former friends when they got wealthy, and instead tried to ingratiate themselves with high society.
Do you know people who do this? Would you do it?
I don't think "money" is what should dictate personal relationships. That is a VERY shallow way of thinking.
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