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She is a tiny woman, between 100-105 pounds. I'm a little overweight, just shy of 150, but exercise a great deal and don't look like I weigh that much, since I'm pretty muscular and fit. When I told her I weighed 150, she said, "Wow! You don't look like you weigh 50% more than me!"
see now most women looooooooove having a fellow heavier than we are because then we will always feel thin! one of the favorite people i ever dated was HUGE, incredibly large and strong, heavy equipment mechanic, he could literally pick me up like i was a feather (and i am not a tiny person, i weighed 150 at the time). i absolutely loved that. there is nothing more depressing for a woman than a man whose waist line is smaller than hers.
i disagree. yes, it's nice of the dad to help. but the OP to me looks just fine....he held his tongue around the dad, which is more mature than the dad. and he has his priorities right to put baby and family ahead of yard. i think the OP looks better than the dad
in a similar situation, when i was home just after giving birth to twins and incredibly overwhelmed and sleep deprived and recovering from surgery for an emergency C-section, my mother visited and criticized me for not getting up and walking her to the car when she left.
Oh wow! That is crazy. It's like others not caring about peoples conditions. Ridiculous!
But that's quite different from OP's situation. For one, you had just had a very painful emergency C-section and had TWO babies already and your mom wanted you to get up and escort her to her car, a patently ridiculous request considering your physical state. But OP's dad just made an obtuse comment. OP hadn't been through a very painful pregnancy, delivery of twins, and traumatic surgery. Your parents hadn't helped you financially (at least not that you mentioned) and cleaned up your house for you. Thus, this dumb comment shouldn't have even been a blip on OP's radar.
One of the dumbest comments anyone has ever said to me was told to me by my wife while we were dating. She is a tiny woman, between 100-105 pounds. I'm a little overweight, just shy of 150, but exercise a great deal and don't look like I weigh that much, since I'm pretty muscular and fit. When I told her I weighed 150, she said, "Wow! You don't look like you weigh 50% more than me!" Amazingly enough, I married her anyway, and we still laugh about that comment to this day.
Umm, yea, well after 12 hours of intense labor, her doctor performed an emergency C section because the umbilical cord was wrapped around our daughters neck. She had an emergency C section! A major surgery! Her doctor ordered her bed rest for a week or longer until the bleeding slows down. And I don't know where you are getting this thing about my father cleaning up my house. I'm cleaning, cooking and doing everything else around the house because my wife cannot. But screw it right?! I should put all this down to take care of the yardModerator cut: delete
Last edited by Miss Blue; 07-25-2015 at 07:56 AM..
Reason: calling the poster "idiot"...not alowed
I once knew a young lady who got involved with an older man -- much to her parents' disapproval. They were together for 30 years or so -- parents' approval or not -- and had three kids. When she was pregnant with the first, her mother told her, "There's still hope! Maybe the baby will be born dead."
I think people don't get how painful the aftereffects of that surgery are. All the layers of your lower abdomen have been cut through. It hurts to breathe deeply, to cough, to laugh--and to walk. I had a friend who had three kids vaginally, and she was at my house a few days after my daughter was born and made some remark while watching me hobble around that she couldn't understand it because I'd had my baby the easy way.
Bless all you ladies who give birth, because there ain't no easy way to do that!
Umm, yea, well after 12 hours of intense labor, her doctor performed an emergency C section because the umbilical cord was wrapped around our daughters neck. She had an emergency C section! A major surgery! Her doctor ordered her bed rest for a week or longer until the bleeding slows down. And I don't know where you are getting this thing about my father cleaning up my house. I'm cleaning, cooking and doing everything else around the house because my wife cannot. But screw it right?! I should put all this down to take care of the yard.idiot
You know what Jared? You sound like a good person, husband, and father. You don't have to explain yourself.
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Can you drive??? I have got that a few times probably because I'm really short & can't hear well. Sometimes, I just wanna reply "How the eff you think I got here?".
[quote=jaredC;40526397]So, whats theModerator cut: edit dumbest thing someone has said to you? Here's mine:
So my wife and I just had our first born on Saturday morning. A baby girl! My wife was in labor for nearly 12 hours and complications ensued requiring a C-section. We finally came home from the hospital on the 21st of July. My dad helped us out financially due to me taking off a couple of weeks from work to help around the house with our baby. He tells me yesterday that him and some family friends will be up in town on Saturday, and to make sure the house looks in good shape, cleanliness wise. He then went on to tell me that the backyard was the absolute worst looking area of the house (I admit, I kinda neglected it, but the hot summer here in Phoenix combined with the prenatal checkups and me working, has left me with very little time to do anything around the house besides getting ready for baby). I then told him that we have been managing around 1-2 hours a night on sleep. And trying to keep up on the dishes/laundry is a ton of effort right now (thank god we precooked meals and froze them!!!). I wanted to tell him back off, but, he's my father and has helped us out financially right now, so I bit my tongue and told him what gets cleaned gets cleaned!
Anyway, what's your short story on whatModerator cut: edit dumb things people say?[/quot I would suggest you suggest they need to stay at a motel because of recent birth. But the other I see as your just not doing much since you off unless the mother cannot take care of baby while you do so for some reason. its not going to get easier .
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Just kidding...
Amazingly enough, I married her anyway, and we still laugh about that comment to this day.
