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I did go to the luncheon and I was seated at another table with some friendly women. She came over in the middle of lunch to tell me that she had saved a seat for me.
I said "Oh thanks Betty, but I've already settled in here.' She came over to say good bye as I was leaving, but she was rather cold and phony-friendly.
The luncheon was pleasant - now I'll enjoy the rest of the day with my husband! I really appreciate everyone's concern and birthday wishes!
So glad you updated!! Glad to hear that it well, the ladies were pleasant, you didn't have to deal with "Betty" too much, and most importantly that you enjoyed your birthday!!
Sigh, talking with an intolerant, angry, overbearing Republican is the same as
talking with an intolerant, angry, overbearing vegetarian....or
an intolerant, angry, overbearing Christian or an intolerant,
angry, overbearing atheist.
Angry, overbearing people are to be avoided...if it's not this it will be the waitress,
the cashier, the city council....it never stops.
So sorry, didn't see if you went to the luncheon or not...but, if it gives you
a cringe feeling...follow that
feeling and do some other wonderful thing ...it's your day! Be free!
We have these feelings as indicators to chose happiness!!
Edited: I read back...you seemed to handle it well!
But I'll leave what I wrote....could help others.
Happy Birthday, Sheena12! I'm glad you went and I agree you handled it perfectly! I picture her scurrying around amongst bunches of folks looking for her next target. Sorta like Pizza Rat.
When you get a chance....talk to the pastor about this.
But, for today...........have a Happy Birthday!!!!!
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Well done indeed.
You do need to discus this with the pastor.
You said he keeps his themes to traditional topics of love and compassion, without interjecting any political bias from the pulpit.
The pastor NEEDS to know that you went through. No thoughtful, compassionate pastor wants new members or potential members driven off by a bully. Because that is what she is: A bully.
Acknowledge that every church and its pastor are free to "lean" one way or another, and that I your political views put you out of place in the congregation, then you will thank him for the wisdom of his sermons, and be on your way elsewhere.
I think you will find him infinitely grateful that you brought this to his attention. No pastor wants -- or can afford to -- have new people driven away by a bully who presumes to alienate new people.
I don't see why she should tell the pastor. That would only make her look like a busybody who can't deal with her own social interactions.
That's the thing. This woman isn't "talking about politics."
She's using the topic of politics to judge whether or not you will agree with her on everything. I would see it as a quick lesson that she is not someone with whom you could actually have a legitimate political discussion.
It sounds like that's what War Beagle is doing too.
Precisely Wmsn4Life. She is using it as a litmus test. To weed people out, and demean then in the process. That's not for me.
I don't see why she should tell the pastor. That would only make her look like a busybody who can't deal with her own social interactions.
I agree. I'm sure the minister has enough real problems to deal with, and what would he do anyway, have a sit-down with Betty to tell her to knock it off??
I'm with the poster who said her behavior is probably (hopefully) well known and merely tolerated in the congregation anyway.
I don't see why she should tell the pastor. That would only make her look like a busybody who can't deal with her own social interactions.
Because pastors counsel us in life........and this is in the church of his flock.
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She is using it as a litmus test. To weed people out, and demean then in the process. That's not for me.
