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Old 10-21-2015, 07:21 PM
 
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This happened 10 years ago, but something recently brought it up again. I spent the night at my friends house and he lived with his girlfriend, good friend and brother. I was getting ready to move and had $1,000 cash in by back pack. I know my friend knew about it and I'm not sure of everyone else. In the morning the house was empty. I woke up and the cash was gone. It was a lot to me because I was moving without a job. I had only $2,000 in the bank.

So today I still know my friend and his brother. No one admits to it. I think I should treat all as if they stole. I mean, I shouldn't trust either of them. They shouldn't be left with the opportunity again.

At this point it's not about the money. Well it is at some point. If I lost 1k I'd be ok, but if I could lose 1k, maybe I could lose much more and leave me in a bad spot.

Should I treat both people as a thief? I know I'd hate to be treated like that, but at least they weren't ripped off. And I have nothing else to go off of.

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Old 10-21-2015, 07:22 PM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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Should I treat both people as a thief?
How does one do that?


You have no idea WHO took the money TEN YEARS ago... let it go.
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Old 10-21-2015, 07:32 PM
 
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How does one do that?


You have no idea WHO took the money TEN YEARS ago... let it go.

By not giving them easy access to anything of value that can be stolen. Basically like a stranger. You lock things up.

I know it was 10 years ago, but it's a 50/50 chance they are someone who would steal a large amount if they could. It would be unwise to not think of that.
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Old 10-21-2015, 07:53 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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She's right. Either drop them or stop thinking of them as thieves. Secure your cash and valuables and you won't have to worry about it.
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Old 10-21-2015, 08:09 PM
 
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There's ways you can tell, you know.

Can you remember what each persons reaction was to the news?

The answer may lie right there.
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Old 10-21-2015, 08:13 PM
 
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Drop them all
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Old 10-21-2015, 08:16 PM
 
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This happened 10 years ago, but something recently brought it up again. I spent the night at my friends house and he lived with his girlfriend, good friend and brother. I was getting ready to move and had $1,000 cash in by back pack. I know my friend knew about it and I'm not sure of everyone else. In the morning the house was empty. I woke up and the cash was gone. It was a lot to me because I was moving without a job. I had only $2,000 in the bank.

So today I still know my friend and his brother. No one admits to it. I think I should treat all as if they stole. I mean, I shouldn't trust either of them. They shouldn't be left with the opportunity again.

At this point it's not about the money. Well it is at some point. If I lost 1k I'd be ok, but if I could lose 1k, maybe I could lose much more and leave me in a bad spot.

Should I treat both people as a thief? I know I'd hate to be treated like that, but at least they weren't ripped off. And I have nothing else to go off of.
Why are you still bothering with these people? It clearly still bothers you. You should have cut the cord, plenty of people have ended friendships or just lost contact over much less than this.
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Old 10-21-2015, 08:16 PM
 
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There's ways you can tell, you know.

Can you remember what each persons reaction was to the news?

The answer may lie right there.
You are right. I only asked one person though. I was sure it was them. But their reaction was that it wasn't. And if it wasn't I hold them responsible. It was their place and their shady friends and relatives.

Until this point I was around trust worthy people. I'll never get my money back, but none will get my trust and will have to live the rest of their lives as suspects.
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Old 10-21-2015, 08:17 PM
 
Location: Sugarmill Woods , FL
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Let it go, it is troubling you way too much for something from a decade ago. Life is too short to let this stuff eat at you.
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Old 10-21-2015, 08:18 PM
 
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Why are you still bothering with these people? It clearly still bothers you. You should have cut the cord, plenty of people have ended friendships or just lost contact over much less than this.

true, and im of a different class of people and should find the same
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