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Yes, the majority of people I text with seem to follow this...and so do I. The convo kind of runs stale and it just tapers off. Then there are people who will suddenly stop, and not answer, and I always wonder why. Most of the time they will send a response 2 days later. Couldn't tell you why. I've done this before because I got busy & forgot to respond, so I figure it's the same for them.
I'm not sure if this is the right place for this, but guess the Mods can move it if they choose .
I'm not really into all this "new-fangled stuff", but hey, I'm learning
Ok, I do text occasionally, mostly to my kids, that seems to be their preferred method of communication. I also text a few people my age. What gets me is, when is the conversation done? I mean, shouldn't a person say Bye, or something? No, they just wander off......is that how its done?Sometimes I'm waiting for an answer, almost give up, then they respond. So, if they have finished the conversation, HTH am I supposed to know? Tonight I had 3 text conversations, all 3 just stopped texting. It was a conversation in progress, not something obviously finished like what time is the game? 4pm. Ok, that's that, and I guess ok to just stop.
But when its an involved conversation, and I am actually responding to their questions, and they just disappear. What do I do then Like I said, sometimes the response takes time, so, do I just sit there and wait, or assume the ended after a certain time? Should I just hang up, or say something like bye, or call back later, or even you there? Then that puts me in the position of being a fool who doesn't know when she's being brushed off.
I've even told these people, please, if you're ending, say so, just a simple bye, would be courteous, but just to wander off.....perhaps I should wait a maximum 2 minutes, then just hang up. If they want me, they can call back.
Or is this the way things are done nowadays? Just wander off when through, let the other guy figure it out?
The thing with text messages is that usually, you aren't catching someone in "real time" -- they are busy. They respond to the text message later. If you are in the middle of a text conversation, sometimes they are being interrupted -- by a boss, spouse, dog jumped the fence, whatever. They get distracted, and then come back to the conversation later. Or they are texting and driving, and suddenly have to pay attention to what they are doing. Or THEY are doing three text conversations, and get wrapped up in a different conversation. Whatever. Usually I wrap up a text message with an "OK, thx" or whatever, to let the other person know I'm "signing off", so to speak.
Generally, if you need an immediate answer and you are crunched for time -- call. Long, involved conversations aren't really for texts. Try texting and saying, "Hey, would like to talk to you for a few minutes -- when would be a good time to call?"
Texting cuts out the formalities of small talk and that is the beauty of it. Quick questions and to the point. "Ok" means ok/later. Hope this helps. The thing about texting is there are no real rules but I hear what you are saying.
That's the beauty of it? Texting is fine for a quick message, you want to have a conversation pick up the phone.
I got a text a few weeks ago saying "watching football thinking of your dad"(my dad passed fairly recently), sounds nice, but no name and I didn't recognize the phone number. I live in CA and it was NY area code. Didn't recognize the number, no name included.
So I texted back "who is this?", turns out it was an old family friend, so I texted back "OK, hello", and that was the end of it. Never heard back.
Sorry, I would have preferred a phone call. And I know with a call when we're done.
I have also noticed with texting, people expect you to be tethered to your phone(I chose not to), you turn the phone on and there will be 3 texts because you didn't get back to them quick enough to their liking, these aren't urgent situations. Just because you're glued to your phone doesn't mean I am.
Used to be you would get a VM message, unless it was an emergency most people would wait till they heard back from the person, now with texting it has to be instantly responded to.
Texting is fine for "running 20 minutes late", not a conversation.
And if you can type in "OK", you can also type in "Bye".
The thing with text messages is that usually, you aren't catching someone in "real time" -- they are busy. They respond to the text message later. If you are in the middle of a text conversation, sometimes they are being interrupted -- by a boss, spouse, dog jumped the fence, whatever. They get distracted, and then come back to the conversation later. Or they are texting and driving, and suddenly have to pay attention to what they are doing. Or THEY are doing three text conversations, and get wrapped up in a different conversation. Whatever. Usually I wrap up a text message with an "OK, thx" or whatever, to let the other person know I'm "signing off", so to speak.
Generally, if you need an immediate answer and you are crunched for time -- call. Long, involved conversations aren't really for texts. Try texting and saying, "Hey, would like to talk to you for a few minutes -- when would be a good time to call?"
LOL...and suddenly have to pay attention to what they're doing? You should be paying attention the minute you get behind the wheel, until you get out of the car.
My siblings do that to me. All.The.Time. Its annoying. I asked them once why they just disappeared and they said "well, I got lazy texting" or "I didnt know what to reply" Well how about something the lines of "I'll talk to you later, I'm busy."
Over the years, I have learned to go on with my business, but I am DEFINITELY NOT going to sit around waiting endlessly for a text message that will unlikely arrive.
You can send them a text from your computer or email if that is easier for you. I understand that tiny little keyboard is a pain.
Texting is response time free, it is assumed that you will respond when convenient.
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