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Old 11-06-2015, 12:05 PM
 
Location: Honolulu, Makiki
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My parents said it a lot so I had no trouble saying it. I do love them but we aren't in contact because of their mental health issues/abuse history.
Me too, minus the abuse and mental health issues. In fact my father takes it a step further and has told me on numerous occasions, "No one in this world cares as much for you or loves you more than your mother and I." Which is true, because so far I haven't found a spouse yet.

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Old 11-06-2015, 12:14 PM
 
Location: Jupiter
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I say I love to my mother and sisters with ease. I have never said it to a SO though.
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Old 11-06-2015, 01:26 PM
 
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After losing a daughter very suddenly, my maternal grandmother made it a practice to say "I love you" any time she spoke with her family. She's dead now, but my cousins and I still say it to each other whenever we meet up. My father's side of the family (his older sister, her husband and my paternal grandmother - his closest relatives), which is a very different type of family, nonetheless also adopted the practice - they were all greatly affected by my young aunt's death. I notice that my one cousin's large circle of close friends has also adopted the practice, both the men and the women - most of them have been friends since grade school.

Kind of cool to realize that my crazy, dysfunctional family has spread something really positive In any case, I really don't have a hard time saying I love you to my parents. I DO love them, even though they drive me nuts.
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Old 11-06-2015, 02:48 PM
 
Location: Yakima yes, an apartment!
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For some reason, I can't say I Love You to my parents, especially my dad. I just feel uncomfortable saying it. So Do you also have trouble saying I Love You to your parents to?
No, but my Mother never said it. Sad huh? Oh and my Father took his life when I was 4. So couldn't do it for him.
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Old 11-08-2015, 03:41 PM
 
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I do.

My parents spent much of my childhood fighting one another and tossing my siblings and I aside.

I often felt ignored, abandoned, and as though I were some sort of convenience.

My mother tells me she loves me every day, but this has only been over the past maybe 3-5 years. But, it feels forced, in that she expects me to say it back to her daily. And I do love her...if anything happened to her, I don't know what I would do. But feeling pressured to say it every day, all the time, b/c she says it, in addition to feeling perhaps some underlying resentment from my childhood, makes me not want to say it at all.

My father is a different (eg read: worse ) story. He's been nearly nonexistent in my life since my parents divorced when I was a child.
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Old 11-14-2015, 12:40 PM
 
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My mother was physically and verbally abusive to me as a child. Never told me she loved me. Dad was a drunk and physically abused her. My childhood was a complete disaster. Fast forward to my adult years, mom says she loves me, but it feels so phony to me. I say it back to her, but I honestly deep down in my heart do not love either of my parents. They were complete failures as parents. My brother and I suffered terribly as a result.
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Old 11-15-2015, 02:35 PM
 
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Said it both to my parents. Even with my dad being really old schooled he had no problem telling me that he loved me. Now I will only use the word love when I mean it. There is only 3 people that I say I love you to. I despise people saying they love me knowing they really dont.
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