if you are a MIL, what do you really think about your DIL? (husband, person)

[cis_love]

my MIL has crazy expectations. she thinks i should do the bulk of childcare and cooking and housekeeping even though both my husband and i work FT. she thinks i should welcome her into our home w/ open arms and that includes living with her. i think she thinks i'm cold and uncaring. which isn't true but she can be so hard to deal with.
so what do you REALLY think about your daughter in law?

[jean_ji]

Our DIL is a great Mom and person. She is fun and makes the grandkids laugh and yet has chores she expects both of them to do at ages 3 and 6. She doesn't create drama and is a mature, well-rounded person. She works 3 twelve hour shifts a week and was off yesterday. As we were heading out to lunch yesterday, DH suggested we ask her to come too. I texted her, she said yes and we stopped by to pick her up. The three of us had a good time together. She texted this morning asking if we wanted to go with them to a festival later today.

She's a great DIL and a person I would like to know even if we weren't related. That's what I really think, and I know I'm fortunate.

[Miss Blue]

I love my DIL as much as I love my own three daughters. DIL is a Special Ed Teacher. She and my only son have no children of their own but son's daughter calls her mom and has moved in with them to attend college. To all the other kids in the family she is their favorite "Aunty".

DIL and son live 5 hours away and she always brings a little gift for me and leaves it on the bed she has changed for me just before they leave for home after a short visit.

I am truly blest that she calls me "mom".

[CSD610]

We think our Daughter In Laws are fine, they make our Sons and Grandchildren happy and that is what is important.
No expectations from us and we respect their wishes for the children in regards to play time, dietary needs/wants etc.

[gentlearts]

I have liked all of them. Some have been more warm than others, but in any case, I certainly wouldn't be expecting to live with them, or for them to do things my way.
I try to be positive and supportive and keep my advice to myself unless I'm asked. Respect goes both ways.

[Star10101]

I actually prefer my mother-in-law to my own mother! My family is totally dysfunctional compared to my husband's family, who are quite normal! My in-laws have all been really nice to me.

[HighFlyingBird]

I'm sure my MIL would speak highly of me but in reality I am sure she doesn't think of me too highly. Actions speaking louder then words, and all.

[ss20ts]

I'm the spawn of Satan! My MIL hated me until the day she died. I stole her baby! Yeah the guy I didn't want anything to do with. He stalked me for a week and a half. I finally gave in and went out with him to get rid of him. Didn't work! A month, a week, and a day later he asked me to marry him....I really became evil then. I'm amazed I don't have flames shooting out of my head with the way she acted about me. 19 years later, we're still married despite my in-laws who would love for me to crawl up and die or just go away. The sisters-in-law have taken over for the parents and they are far worse. They put those high school mean girls to shame!

[SouthernBelleInUtah]

I love my d-i-l. She is very caring and pleasant. She takes great care of my son and grandkids.

[aquietpath]

My daughter in law is a fabulous mother and loves my son very much, so of course I love her! It's his second marriage - the first DIL I did not care for - she was selfish, immature and a prima donna. Thankfully, that marriage was short lived. I don't know if I could have hidden my true feelings for any length of time.

My current DIL is a sweetheart - not perfect, but good for my son and a generally nice person. MIL/DIL relationship can be tricky, but when it works it is wonderful.